Lauriebell82 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I think I may be getting engaged soon! I don't know when or if it is a total definate, but BF is dropping hints left and right! The big hypothetical questions such as "well how do guys know their gf's ring size if they want the proposal to be a total suprise? How do they find out" Then he wanted to know what the ring I looked at looked like. All signs are looking up! Again, I don't know that this is going to happen, I'm just so happy that we are going to commit to being together forever! I am not really fishing for a proposal, nor am I going to be upset if I don't get one soon, but I'm just happy to know that it will happen. I know we have had our ups and downs, but we got through it and love each other so much! I have confidence that we can get through anything. And that's what marriage is all about..hard work! P.S. I totally know that all this doesn't mean he is going to ask me and my hopes aren't up really high that I would freak if he didn't ask, I just wanted to share my happiness with everyone.
Shygirl15 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 ... going to propose to you very soon. That's excellent, I know you have been dreaming for that moment for a long time. All the best!
Lishy Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Awwwwwwww LB I am pleased for you and sure he will ask soon!!!!!!! I know you have had your up's and down's but you have always got through it together and that is what successful relationships are about, being able to take the rough with the smooth and being able to communicate. Well done you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Touche Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 If you're happy, I'm happy for you. This worries me though: And that's what marriage is all about..hard work! I don't agree with that. It shouldn't be hard work at all. If it is, something's not right. I've always said that so don't take it personally. It's the couples who are always "working on their relationship" who end up failing from what I've seen. I really do wish you the best LB. Just go into this with your eyes wide open.
Kamille Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 It is exciting LB. And that's what marriage is all about..hard work! I don't agree with that. It shouldn't be hard work at all. If it is, something's not right. I've always said that so don't take it personally. I've heard both points of views. My parents, for instance, will say that you have to accept that marriage is 'sometimes hard work'. I'm wondering if it doesn't have more to do with personnality styles then a general rule for relationships. Touche, you've always seemed straightfoward and diplomatic to me, which in turns means that you can solve issues rapidly and therefore have an easy-going relationships. I think LB is more like me. She doesn't always know where her own boundaries are so that's why her relationship is sometimes hard work. I do hope however that if I get married, it'll be in a relationship that isn't hard work.
lovestruck818 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 If you're happy, I'm happy for you. This worries me though: And that's what marriage is all about..hard work! I don't agree with that. It shouldn't be hard work at all. If it is, something's not right. I've always said that so don't take it personally. It's the couples who are always "working on their relationship" who end up failing from what I've seen. I really do wish you the best LB. Just go into this with your eyes wide open. if your marriage is hard work or a struggle, then you aren't with the right person...love should never be a struggle...
Lishy Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I think what she meant by the 'hard work' comment was that it is not all easy and at times it is hard work to sort things out - I think it is more of a problem when couples will not put the effort or hard work into sorting things out and just let the relationship rot ... Like my ex did! I think these two have a good shot at making it work, LB has grown quite a bit since she first came here and I am happy if she is happy as I am sure everyone who knows her will be
Art_Critic Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 The big hypothetical questions such as "well how do guys know their gf's ring size if they want the proposal to be a total suprise? How do they find out" How did you answer that one ? I hope you both do get engaged LB.. Marriage isn't supposed to be a breeze.. but it also isn't supposed to suck the life out of you either.. Does it take work.. oh yes.. does it take hard work.. not so much.. hard work is more for the tests in a marriage, such as money problems or career changes or parents coming to live with you.. those things are hard work.. but marriage itself is just work... There is a happy medium in a happy marriage
Nevermind Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Again, I don't know that this is going to happen, I'm just so happy that we are going to commit to being together forever! I am not really fishing for a proposal, nor am I going to be upset if I don't get one soon, but I'm just happy to know that it will happen. Huh? If it happens, I am glad for you. But, please, don't get your hopes up too early. Remember Christmas?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 How did you answer that one ? I was kind of shocked at first, so I just said hypothetically this: Me: "well a lot of guys take their gf's ring shopping." BF: "well, yeah but how do they find out if they don't want to take them shopping?" Me: "well the gf could probably just tell him in some way. Like I tried on my friend's ring and she is a size 6 so that is probably what I am. (see how I snuck that in? lol) BF: "yeah but you lost weight, so maybe your finger is smaller now." Me: "Well I was pretty much at the weight i'm at when I tried on my freinds ring, so thats probably what I am." BF: "Oh okay. Hope, I can remember that!" (he changed the subject real quick after that!)
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 Thanks for the support everyone. Like Lishy said, "hard work" was probably the wrong words. WORK, like Art said is more what I meant. Like ups and downs and you need to sort them out, and then you are happy again. And we def. are happy!
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 Huh? If it happens, I am glad for you. But, please, don't get your hopes up too early. Remember Christmas? OHHH yes, I remember. That's why I didn't take any of his comments too seriously until he started asking me about rings and talking about our wedding (which he did the other day). And even that may mean nothing, but last year he wasn't talking about engagement he was talking about that birthstone ring. So this is TOTALLY different. Again though, don't worry i'm not getting my hopes up too high.
Art_Critic Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I was kind of shocked at first, so I just said hypothetically this: Me: "well a lot of guys take their gf's ring shopping." BF: "well, yeah but how do they find out if they don't want to take them shopping?" Me: "well the gf could probably just tell him in some way. Like I tried on my friend's ring and she is a size 6 so that is probably what I am. (see how I snuck that in? lol) BF: "yeah but you lost weight, so maybe your finger is smaller now." Me: "Well I was pretty much at the weight i'm at when I tried on my freinds ring, so thats probably what I am." BF: "Oh okay. Hope, I can remember that!" (he changed the subject real quick after that!) that's perfect.. you did good..You go the ring shopping line slipped in Remember too that a ring can be sized after it's given as well.. So he doesn't really need your size and after he gives the ring to you you can take it and have it sized..
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 that's perfect.. you did good..You go the ring shopping line slipped in Remember too that a ring can be sized after it's given as well.. So he doesn't really need your size and after he gives the ring to you you can take it and have it sized.. Yeah thats true. He tends to have trouble remembering things that I tell him (I think he tunes me out sometimes because I talk so much). When we were talking about it another time he asked me "okay what was the size?" I said 6. Again he said "wait what?" LOL i repeated it like 5 times. Anyway, chances are he won't remember so I'll just have to get it sized again.
Carmen87 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Well even if the 6 isn't a perfect fit, you can go get it resized after. If he is dropping hints like that, I would bet its in the near future for sure.
climbergirl Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I think what she meant by the 'hard work' comment was that it is not all easy and at times it is hard work to sort things out - I think it is more of a problem when couples will not put the effort or hard work into sorting things out and just let the relationship rot ... Like my ex did! I think these two have a good shot at making it work, LB has grown quite a bit since she first came here and I am happy if she is happy as I am sure everyone who knows her will be I agree with all of the above! Good for you LB!! And like A_C and carmen said, you can always get the ring resized. I'm sure they (jewelers) will point that out to him.
Lishy Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I would always get a ring resized - I would get 1 carat changed for 2 carats! hahahhaha
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 Thanks everyone!!! BF wanted to go to the mall yesterday to look at earings, which is odd because he never has wanted to set FOOT in a jewerly store. I showed him the ones I wanted (we didn't look at engagement rings, he probably thought that would be too obvious) but I saw him "glance" over. Anyway, it's not even about the proposal/engagement/wedding, it's about the fact that we are committing to each other for life..and he is showing signs that he wants to do that.
Walk Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 LB... Love how you slipped in the size. That was slick!
serialgf Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 i am confused when you say that you are excited about making a lifetime commitment to each other and that he's showing signs of wanting to do that BUT you are also not assuming he is going to propose.... don't the two statements contradict each other? aside from asking you a HYPOTHETICAL question about ring sizes, how is he showing signs of wanting to make a lifetime commitment? i think you are setting yourself up again... even if you don't admit it to us it seems pretty obvious that you are anticipating a proposal.... i hope things work out for the best
Touche Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Ok, now I'm a little confused. Why was he looking at earrings? Do you have a birthday coming up?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 Ok, now I'm a little confused. Why was he looking at earrings? Do you have a birthday coming up? Our two year anniversary is on Sept 7th, and that's what I told him I wanted for a present.
Touche Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Our two year anniversary is on Sept 7th, and that's what I told him I wanted for a present. Oh, ok. Could he be looking at other types of rings for your anniversary as well? Or do you think he's going to be popping the question on your 2 year anniversary?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 Oh, ok. Could he be looking at other types of rings for your anniversary as well? Or do you think he's going to be popping the question on your 2 year anniversary? It's possible I suppose. I'm trying not to get my hopes up for our anniversary in case he doesn't. I don't want to be crushed. The earings are so beautiful, so I would love them as a present. He DOES want the whole thing to be a huge surprise, so it may not happen on our anniversary. That may be too obvious in his eyes. I seriously would be shocked if he did propose, so he would get his surprise proposal!
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