JoeNewbie Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 You have dinner planned with your friends but receive an invitation for a date. Assuming you are interested, would you cancel dinner with your friends to go on the date?
Balthazar Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Your thread is incorrectly worded and aimed at the wrong group Joe. What you should be asking is: "Guys, how often has a woman canceled a get together with her girl friends to go out with you?" or "How often has a woman preferred to go out with her homegirls instead of with you?" and you should also ask the guys if anything (romantic in nature) actually happened with the woman. CHeers,
sultry33 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 no id stick to what i booked first... friends are more important than a new date imo.. id arrange another date if i was that interested:)
Author JoeNewbie Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 Thanks Balthazar. Actually I am looking for the "canceller's" perspective. If it were me, I would tell my guy friends I have a date (they would surely understand) BUT I would not tell the girl who I go on a date with (I don't want her to think she's too important...).
flc Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I expect the answer will be similar whether a women or a man. In my case if I really was interested in the women and the event was not so important I would cancel and go out on the date. If the event was important then I would try to reschedule the date.
LovehateLove Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 No, I wouldn’t cancel my plan to have a meal with friends for a date with a woman. I’d arrange the date another day, after all there are plenty of hours in a week, so why not space things out?
KinAZ Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 That would depend on my schedule, and the event itself. If it's a friend I don't see or talk to as much, or something particularly special about this dinner, then I wouldn't cancel to go out with a guy. If it was just my bff and not something she was really looking forward to (during a time when we saw each other aaaaall the time), lol and it was some guy I was reeeeeally into, she wouldn't mind, just as I wouldn't. But unless I was really taken by the guy, or really didn't want to go to the dinner, I probably wouldn't move things around. But even in the case of a guy I was smitten by, I wouldn't say "oh I have plans, but I can break them." I would probably tell him that I wasn't sure, and then check with my friends to see if they would mind. How often have I broken plans with my friends to go out with a guy? Twice, and yes, I was smitten.
Lyssa Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Nope, I wouldn't cancel. It'd be the same thing if I had a date planned and then my friends asked me out (unless if it was an emergency then I'd cancel the date).
Mahatma Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 There are a lot of factors that go into this question. How often do you do this dinner with friends, are they people you see a lot or friends you hardly see, are they your really close friends, or not. In general, the answer is no. ESPECIALLY no if the potential date knows you have plans prior... it will lower their respect for you. If this dinner isn't really that significant or special, and your friends don't care, then who cares?
2sunny Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 no - i wouldn't cancel on my friends. i'd reschedule the date for a different time.
Mag Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I agree with everyone who wouldnt cancel on friends. Theres always "tomorrow" right?
AriaIncognito Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 You have dinner planned with your friends but receive an invitation for a date. Assuming you are interested, would you cancel dinner with your friends to go on the date? Never cancel on your friends for a date. There are other days of the week you can go on the date.
Trialbyfire Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 If my friends were relying on me to be there, I'd never cancel dinner with a friend or friends, for a date, no matter how much I liked the guy. If it's just a casual houseparty or large group dinner with a casual message of "come if you can make it" vibes, then yes, I would go on the date instead.
A.G.Doren Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Generally speaking the answer is no. A few posters mentioned some cases when I would make an exception like I've been hanging out with my bff everyday then I might consider xcling the date, might consider.
Kamille Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 No I wouldn't. I would tell my date I have a previous engagement with friends on that night and offer an alternative day for the date. If the 'date' wasn't willing to reschedule I would take it as low interests on his part and be happy to move on. I would never want to move my schedule around for a guy I hardly know.
Author JoeNewbie Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 Wow, I am surprised by the number of responses and shocked to see that 10 respondents out of 12 would NOT cancel dinner with their friends for an interesting date. Thank you so much for pitching in.
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