BKRPM Posted August 12, 2008 Share Posted August 12, 2008 I need some advice here. Me and my GF are both in our upper 30s. She has been married before. I got really close when I was 33, but found out my then-fiancee was a little crazy. We have been going out since late last fall. It's a long distance relationship, as she lives two hours away. We alternate weekends at our homes, her one weekend here, and then me one weekend there. We have yet to have a big argument. Even if we will, I know that we communicate so well, that it would be very productive, and not mean. We have had good discussions, and have told each other that we are disappointed in the other a few times, but resolve things quickly. We do love each other, and we're working towards an eventual engagement, if all goes well. If it happens, I would think it would be by year-end 2008. If that happens, she said that she would move here to my city. A lot of her family, including her parents live hours away from both of our homes. Mine live about 10 minutes away. We have met each other's parents about 5-6 times each. Here's my issue: (And I do preface this by saying that I am close with my parents and family, and also that I do want my relationship to work out with my gf). My parents have stated in passing that they feel that my gf does not like them. My gf has said that she feels a bit nervous around my parents. Both haven't given any detail to me, but mentioned that it is a 'feeling that they have.' Both my gf and my parents have never said a bad thing about the other, mind you. When they do get together, I do a little bit of tension - I feel like saying to each of them, "Lighten up!" One time my gf is aloof with my parents; the next time they are with her. My parents are kind of silly, huggy -- that's just them, and my sister and cousins are that way. My gf, however, grew up on a small farm a ways away, and is more formal and quiet. I certainly love my gf, and love my family -- can't they all just get along? How can I get them to interact more? It's like they resent each other a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
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