My new dating philosophy.

[Kamille]

I'm just not good at relationships.

 

So I'm going to stop trying to figure out how to date successfully.

 

And I'm just going to have fun and enjoy man's company for what it is and get to know them for who they are.

 

And I'm going to allow myself the right to be vulnerable.

 

And the right to make mistakes.

[johan]

How is this different from before?

[Lizzie60]

I'm just not good at relationships.

 

So I'm going to stop trying to figure out how to date successfully.

 

And I'm just going to have fun and enjoy man's company for what it is and get to know them for who they are.

 

And I'm going to allow myself the right to be vulnerable.

 

And the right to make mistakes.

 

 

Good.. at with this attitude.. they'll be at your feet..

 

Best way is to go with the flow.. be independant.. and confident..

[itgirlragdoll]

Ironically, I've found that is the best way to date successfully.

 

If you're not allowing yourself to be vulnerable, you're not giving anyone a real chance. And if you don't make mistakes, you'll never learn.

 

Good luck. :]

[Kamille]

I know - it's working wonders already.

 

My ex and my ONS are chasing me.

 

And it's so much less complicated.

 

You're right Johan, I was always a bit cavaliere about dating. But, what's different for me now is not trying to pretend I have any idea what I'm doing.

[xpaperxcutx]

I know - it's working wonders already.

 

My ex and my ONS are chasing me.

 

And it's so much less complicated.

 

You're right Johan, I was always a bit cavaliere about dating. But, what's different for me now is not trying to pretend I have any idea what I'm doing.

 

Is the ONS the guy you met at camp?

[Kamille]

Is the ONS the guy you met at camp?

 

 

Exactly the one. We saw each other again when I was on vacation near his hometown, had a good time. He's a real sweetheart.

 

The other part of the dating philosophy is that I'm going to stop making every encounter I have into a relationship. I figure good relationships just happen.

 

So I'm striving for a balance of putting myself out there, having fun, keeping my balance and not projecting my own insecurities about being single onto guys.

[Lucky555]

thanks for posting this...i have been thinking about how i am approaching dating.....I like your philosophy. I am going to have fun too but also put my foot down this time.