foreverlove06 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Okay, so here goes. I am 20 years old and have been dating the same person since i was 17. It is definately on the road to marriage, and we are happy together...even though its not perfect Anyway, sometimes it concerns me that our relationship started when I was so young. I dated other people when i was younger, and by younger i mean 15-16 years old... and those werent anything of significance. Ive never done anything sexual with anyone but my SO. This is mine (and his!) first & only serious relationship. Sometimes, it worries me... did i experience enough to settle down into this relationship which will most likely end up in marriage? I frequently have this battle in my head... I would never give him up. But i just want to make sure that in 20 years after I'm married with kids, i will never say "Hey, i didnt experience enough.".... Ive thought about taking a break before, but he disagrees with me on this issue... because what would a break do for us? I already know he is exactly what i want in a boyfriend. Dating other people wouldnt lead me to someone better, the only thing it would do is allow me to experience things with different people.
Lauriebell82 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Okay, so here goes. I am 20 years old and have been dating the same person since i was 17. It is definately on the road to marriage, and we are happy together...even though its not perfect Anyway, sometimes it concerns me that our relationship started when I was so young. I dated other people when i was younger, and by younger i mean 15-16 years old... and those werent anything of significance. Ive never done anything sexual with anyone but my SO. This is mine (and his!) first & only serious relationship. Sometimes, it worries me... did i experience enough to settle down into this relationship which will most likely end up in marriage? I frequently have this battle in my head... I would never give him up. But i just want to make sure that in 20 years after I'm married with kids, i will never say "Hey, i didnt experience enough.".... Ive thought about taking a break before, but he disagrees with me on this issue... because what would a break do for us? I already know he is exactly what i want in a boyfriend. Dating other people wouldnt lead me to someone better, the only thing it would do is allow me to experience things with different people. Okay you know he is exactly what you want, and dating others wouldn't lead you to someone better. Then why do you want to break up? I get why you would think you missed out on things. HOWEVER if you do really love your boyfriend, other guys shouldn't matter it should just be about the two of you and the love you share. You shouldn't need to experience other things/guys if you have the one you want. If you ARE having these reservations, maybe the relationship isn't what you want right now..and there is nothing wrong with that. You have to decide whether being on your own for awhile is worth losing your great relationship.
Author foreverlove06 Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 I know, it makes no sense and yet i cant help myself from thinking this. And yet i also know that i dont want to break up with him because how would that make me happy?...It wouldnt, i would be miserable & miss him terribly. And even though i know hes the one i want, sometimes i feel like an old married couple and its like well is this REALLY what i want to feel like right now? Being on my own would not enrich my life & im not about to lose our relationship. I think its the "what if" questions that bother me.... Thanks for the response.
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