celinedion1 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Why does NC seems to be so difficult to do?
BurningRoses Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 because it fights your basic human instincts and pain reactions.I am trying to be very tao of steve, "we chase that which retreats", it helps I think
saams Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 i guess most people are afraid of losing something they love, it feels like they are giving up on something special when they go nc..
foxh1234 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 It is simple really, it is hard because you love the person and who wants to stop talking, seeing, and being in the life of someone we love.
Author celinedion1 Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 I agree with everything that everyone has said. It's so hard not picking up the phone ot find out how he is. I love him so much and it's just so painful to not be in contact with him or the thought of losing him in my life. I honestly don't want to lose him in my life but it feels like I am.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Why does NC seems to be so difficult to do? Curiously, none of the prior answers really nailed your question, although they did get somewhat near to the answer. ... because you yearn to keep investing your feelings and caring IN the other person, as is the norm for anyone who is content about an important person in their lives on any level. (being near them and interacting with them are the best ways to achieve that natural desire)
Mending1985 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I find it hard because I'm afraid that if I'm not contacting the other person, they aren't thinking of me, and will forget about me, and the idea of that really hurts. And also, (I don't know if you'll agree with this) but if I'm calling them and I'm in their life its going to be harder for him to move on to someone new, know what I mean? That's why I find it so hard anyway - maybe you're the same?
myeverything Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 For me the feelings of love I still feel make it very difficult not to contact. I still feel there must be a side of her I can appeal to and make her reconsider the way she is acting. Giving up that notion is my key to NC and I assume, to forget her. I agree with Mending also about letting the other party forget you
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