married too young and unhapy

[droptopt/a]

hey let me start by saying hi .im new to this forum im 20 years old i got married at the age of 18.my wife is a very beatiful lady she is 21 years old.i feel that i made a mistake getting married at such a young age.i dont really khow how to put this but im not really happy right now my wife is a great girl but im just not happy one of the reasons are i feel she deserves better me i have been unemployed for 3 months now and i feel i cant provide for her she is the only one working right now she has a really good job shes pretty and then i look at my self and i am very jealous i get mad at every thing and all i want to do is work on my cars i have another problem ever since i was litle i suffer from big time headeachs and i think thats one of the things that affects my marriage i dont take her out no were cause i always have a headeach and also theres been many fights in the past were she leaves but she allways ends up coming back her family hates me and i just dont khow what to do

[Green]

Well have you seen a doctor about your headaches. Maybe there is some medication you can take to help. Are you trying your hardest to start a new job? You;ll feel better once your working again. If you don't have kids and you really want a divorce, I say just do it.

[droptopt/a]

yeah im going to school during the whole week and in the night 2 times aweek to graduate faster a welders course to then get a good job and for my headeachs i dont have insurance no more but when i did the doctors would always try to give me a lot of pills and i dont have any kids.another problem we have is that she doesnt like to have asmuch sex as i do and sometimes i feel like cheating but i havent i have hold it together

[porter218]

the doctors would always try to give me a lot of pills

What is wrong with that? Did the pills not work or something. Or are you just against taking medication?

 

As far as everything else, just try to hold it together and work your *ss off to get a job. I think once you are working again everything will come together.

[droptopt/a]

yeah im trying to keep it together um the pills didnt really help to be honest it doesnt matter no more i cant take them if i wanted to i have no insurance .i guess the best thing to do is hang in there and see what the future has to say huh

[Oggie_23]

You sound like my husband! He likes to work on his car. But no headaches.

 

You probably feel like she deserves better because you have no job. Men like to bring home the bacon. That I think is why you don't feel like much of a man. But I am sure you are. You will find a job and I believe you can make your marriage work. You are young and still have some growing up to do. My husband and I got together at 17 and he was 19. We have had some rough times. But now that I am 26 and he will be 29, we have found our place in life and have made it through all the tough times. not saying there will be no more tough times, but if they come, I'm sure we will make it through.

 

It takes two to make a relationship work. As for the sex, women get busy and to some of us it is not an everyday priority. Talk to her and express your feelings because in the end she will be the one that is still there for you.