SeaBrooke Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 well he emailed me friday, and saturday under a different email. I didn't write back to him. Just didn't know what to say. What exactly is there to say about something which there is no future in for me. it's just better left in the past i think.
Meaplus3 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 well he emailed me friday, and saturday under a different email. I didn't write back to him. Just didn't know what to say. What exactly is there to say about something which there is no future in for me. it's just better left in the past i think. Don't write back. You are right it's better left in the past. Best wishes. AP:)
Author SeaBrooke Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 i know it is, for 13 mos he's banked on the fact I would just blindly love him forever.... I am tired of less than a real out in the open relationship. he's married and can not give me that, and he can't give it because he doesn't want to. he expects too much for me. i've given up my life long enough for him.
Arise_Serpentor Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 just put it in your junk mail and MOVE ON!!!
bentnotbroken Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Alert your carrier that the email address is spam and you won't have to even see it.
Owl Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Or (and I'm not sure on this) block his email...hopefully if he gets a response back that this one is blocked too, he can take a hint. Just a thought. If that doesn't work...hire a hitman. Just have his knees broken...its really hard to do much with broken knees. It should take a lot of the fun out of his life. Thoughts? :D
Tomcat33 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Blocking his email won't work, putting it in the junk folder won't work either and neither will telling him to stop as you can see they always just take out a new addy so it's futile! So take matters into your own hands you have one of two choices: 1) ignore, you ignore he will go away at least for a while.... 2) tell him you are seeing someone, this one is just as effective.
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Why would you open up an email from an unknown email address? It could easily have been littered with viruses or trojans. Grrrr...think people!
Tomcat33 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Why would you open up an email from an unknown email address? It could easily have been littered with viruses or trojans. Grrrr...think people! Not unless you open and attachment or click on a link. You don't get viruses just from opening emails.
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Not unless you open and attachment or click on a link. You don't get viruses just from opening emails.Using either the preview pane (Outlook) or the message pane (some others) can release viruses and trojans, particularly if the email is received in HTML format with Javascript enabled in your mail program. Even without using the preview pane, HTML format email can be dangerous. Disable Javascript if you can, in your mail program.
Author SeaBrooke Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 I don't know much about viruses etc, but I kinda figured from the email addy it was him. I read it out of curiousity more than anything. I feel stong in my resolve not to ever go back to him. I had met someone in the spring, but I wouldn't get involved with him because my head and heart were all mixed up with xmm. Well I heard from him on Thursday last week. He asked me if I was still with him, meaning MM. I told him no.... but I was hurt and not really dating anyone because of that. (this man is single). We have been talking a lot since Thursday. So he asked me if I would please give him a chance to show me what being happy in a relationship was all about, and let him help me forget all about being hurt by the MM. So tonight I agreed to let him take me to lunch tomorrow.
bentnotbroken Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 I don't know much about viruses etc, but I kinda figured from the email addy it was him. I read it out of curiousity more than anything. I feel stong in my resolve not to ever go back to him. I had met someone in the spring, but I wouldn't get involved with him because my head and heart were all mixed up with xmm. Well I heard from him on Thursday last week. He asked me if I was still with him, meaning MM. I told him no.... but I was hurt and not really dating anyone because of that. (this man is single). We have been talking a lot since Thursday. So he asked me if I would please give him a chance to show me what being happy in a relationship was all about, and let him help me forget all about being hurt by the MM. So tonight I agreed to let him take me to lunch tomorrow. And do just that. Let him show you what being in a happy relationship with a single guy could be like. Just give him a chance.
White Flower Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 i know it is, for 13 mos he's banked on the fact I would just blindly love him forever.... I am tired of less than a real out in the open relationship. he's married and can not give me that, and he can't give it because he doesn't want to. he expects too much for me. i've given up my life long enough for him. You're right honey--he is banking on the fact that you will put up with it forever. Hang in there with the NC. If you're worth it, he'll leave his marriage for you. Hugs, WF.
White Flower Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 And do just that. Let him show you what being in a happy relationship with a single guy could be like. Just give him a chance. I agree Seabrooke, give this guy a chance!
White Flower Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Or (and I'm not sure on this) block his email...hopefully if he gets a response back that this one is blocked too, he can take a hint. Just a thought. If that doesn't work...hire a hitman. Just have his knees broken...its really hard to do much with broken knees. It should take a lot of the fun out of his life. Thoughts? :D R U offering?
Owl Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 :pR U offering? Nawwww....that would be ILLEGAL! Why WF...I'm SHOCKED that you would think that I would do something like that...just SHOCKED! Deeply wounded too.... :lmao:
Author SeaBrooke Posted August 12, 2008 Author Posted August 12, 2008 Owl, you made me smile and laugh so .....when i read about the breaking of knee's. White Flower: Thank you, I had a nice time today. I am not sure of much more than that right now. He spoke of holiday plans and weekends away. He asked me about getting a job in the city where he works so we could have lunch everyday. He doesn't give me his home phone # though, and that is a HUGE red flag for me.... in a nutshell is scares me and makes me not trust him, despite all this talk of future plans, actions to me speak louder than words. I think that is the lesson I learned from the affair.
White Flower Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Owl, you made me smile and laugh so .....when i read about the breaking of knee's. White Flower: Thank you, I had a nice time today. I am not sure of much more than that right now. He spoke of holiday plans and weekends away. He asked me about getting a job in the city where he works so we could have lunch everyday. He doesn't give me his home phone # though, and that is a HUGE red flag for me.... in a nutshell is scares me and makes me not trust him, despite all this talk of future plans, actions to me speak louder than words. I think that is the lesson I learned from the affair.Just curious, why do you want the home phone number? I'm sure he is just protecting his W, as he should, and there are other ways to reach him should you need to. I know of a guy who's exOW hounded the house phone over and over after he ended it. He never thought she'd do that to him. I'm sure you wouldn't be like that, but still, he is protecting his family.
White Flower Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Nawwww....that would be ILLEGAL! Why WF...I'm SHOCKED that you would think that I would do something like that...just SHOCKED! Deeply wounded too.... :lmao: Shocked and wounded? Naw, I doubt that very much;). I remember hearing about a certain OM being very frightened of you.
Author SeaBrooke Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 WhiteFlower, It is the single man i had lunch with yesterday, that will not give me his home # or a cell phone #. I have xmm phone number. That is why with the single guy, i am thinking that there must be someone else in his life. He says there isn't that he just dated a crazy person once and needs time with me for him to be comfortable to give me his phone #. It makes me hesitant to trust him
Owl Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Actually, the OM wasn't frightened of me...he didn't know enough about me to realize the situation. My WIFE...she wasn't scared for herself at all...but she was panicked over what might happen to OM, and it was even worse when he clearly wouldn't listen to her. But hey, I'm just a little guy. No threat at all!
GreenEyedLady Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 WhiteFlower, It is the single man i had lunch with yesterday, that will not give me his home # or a cell phone #. I have xmm phone number. That is why with the single guy, i am thinking that there must be someone else in his life. He says there isn't that he just dated a crazy person once and needs time with me for him to be comfortable to give me his phone #. It makes me hesitant to trust him HE'S MARRIED! I bet my life on it!
Author SeaBrooke Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 GEL, I can't think of any other reason why he wouldn't give me a phone #. People exchange phone #'s all the time. Even in bars. He wants an exclusive relationship with but, doesn't trust me with his phone #. It adds up to he has someone in his life already to me.
Owl Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Then why waste your time concerned with someone that you don't feel is being open and honest with you?
GreenEyedLady Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 GEL, I can't think of any other reason why he wouldn't give me a phone #. People exchange phone #'s all the time. Even in bars. He wants an exclusive relationship with but, doesn't trust me with his phone #. It adds up to he has someone in his life already to me. Yeah. He's definitely with someone else or he'd at least give you a cell#. When I was dating I wouldn't immediately give out my home #, but always a cell. Especially the part about the psycho. I've heard that line too. It's just what drove the poor lady to being a psycho, ya know? I'd stay away from him. You've already been through enough without starting the cycle again, with a new one.
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