plumtree Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I met a guy online a couple of months ago. I've seen him 7 times since then. We sleep together and we've both said that we think that side of things is great. We have fun together and he's always very affectionate with me when we're out together. BUT, I see that he's still online, presumably looking for/setting up/going on dates with other women. I didn't expect him to stop dating as soon as we met but after a couple of months? Is this too soon? Any ideas??? I have been on a couple of dates with other people myself since we met but I would be happy to stop dating other people to see where it went with him. He's not great at communicating either - sends texts and emails really only to set up the next date. Also he often takes a while to respond to me if I text him. I'm not particularly young (36) and I've just started dating again after a year of being single (horrible break-up just over a year ago with a guy who turned out to be a pathological liar) and this situation is making me feel quite vulnerable. I got a little irritated with him the other day and told him I got the feeling he wasn't really that into the situation and that I didn't want to waste my time on someone who wasn't that interested. He said he didn't mean to give me that impression and that he wanted to see me. We met up that night but the next day he said he couldn't see me for a week or so as he had "friends staying". Hmmm... It's not as if I've been sitting around waiting for him to call. I'm very busy with work and friends. One of my friends said I might have given him the impression that I am too busy for him but I do think that if a man is very interested he will usually be more enthusiastic in his pursuit of a woman which leads me to the conclusion that this one could take or leave me! I don't want to be the back up girl for this man, who has great sex with him while he's looking for someone to settle down with. Am I being played?
Yamaha Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 A player usually moves on after he gets what he wants ( sex ). He is still around, however indifferent he seems, so I would say he is just not as interested in you as you seem to be in him. I wouldn't stop dating other guys until you see alot more interest in you. He seem to be playing the field.
Author plumtree Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 Yep, maybe you're right Yamaha, although it's not a comforting thought. I think it's probably wise for me to stop seeing him altogether. I find the thought of dating someone who is less interested in me than I am in them pretty humiliating! Thing is I find dating pretty soul-destroying. I've been on lots of dates with lots of guys and haven't found anyone that I've felt any sort of connection with. As I said, I'm not exactly young and feel that time is running out a little. All very depressing.
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