Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 I know! I totally agree. And I see this ALL the time lately. It devalues the whole meaning of what an engagement is and what it is supposed to be. Yeah I agree too. If you aren't going to get married or see a wedding in the future, why even be engaged? Just date!
Touche Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Well jews also marry in temples, and they have spectacular weddings. At the reception the bride & groom get lifted up and swung around on chairs. It's awesome. Don't forget the stomping of the glass too.
Arise_Serpentor Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 or temple perhaps...I love how people automatically associate weddings with a church... Do you really love it or are you just being a wise-acre? Do you think people might be able figure out what pertains to them on their own or do they need you?
Arise_Serpentor Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Very true. Everyone IS different, therefore the purpose of the thread is to share different opinions or experiences. Yeah, that's what I thought too. You are kind of stating the obvious, though, arent ye?
Touche Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Yeah I agree too. If you aren't going to get married or see a wedding in the future, why even be engaged? Just date! Right...or live together.
lovestruck818 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Don't forget the stomping of the glass too. Oh hah, yeah that's awesome!!! I've always wanted to purposely break a glass. The huppah (sp?) is cool too.
Lishy Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Oh don't worry about the length of the engagement, worry about the size of the diamond!!!!!!!!!
lovestruck818 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Do you really love it or are you just being a wise-acre? Do you think people might be able figure out what pertains to them on their own or do they need you? sarcasm. People sometimes forget that there are jews in this country and not everyone gets married at a church or chapel or whatever it is. There are many places to have weddings. It seems to be the standard that when people say they are getting married people always ask 'what church are you marrying at?'...forgetting people come from all different religions. I can't get married at a church or a temple for lack of faith...not bat mitzvah and not baptised, so I think when the time comes I may have the ceremony @ the reception hall and conducted by a justice of the peace.
porter218 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 sarcasm. People sometimes forget that there are jews in this country and not everyone gets married at a church or chapel or whatever it is. There are many places to have weddings. It seems to be the standard that when people say they are getting married people always ask 'what church are you marrying at?'...forgetting people come from all different religions. I can't get married at a church or a temple for lack of faith...not bat mitzvah and not baptised, so I think when the time comes I may have the ceremony @ the reception hall and conducted by a justice of the peace. Well I am a firm believer in beach-side weddings.. sooo much prettier!
Arise_Serpentor Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 sarcasm. People sometimes forget that there are jews in this country and not everyone gets married at a church or chapel or whatever it is. Ahh! Sarcasm! The language of the devil my grandma used to say! Well, LS is glad they have you correct anyone that says church and forgets about temples! What do Muslim people marry in I wonder?!?! Maybe I should have said Vegas drive through too huh? And the deck of ship, since captains can marry? Man, never thought i would have to be so specific so as not to confuse people!!!!
lovestruck818 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Well I am a firm believer in beach-side weddings.. sooo much prettier! they are very pretty...usually smaller though? I am hoping to have a gigantic wedding...considering that me marrying is highly unlikely, if & when the time comes, I'm milking it for it's worth!
lovestruck818 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Ahh! Sarcasm! The language of the devil my grandma used to say! Well, LS is glad they have you correct anyone that says church and forgets about temples! What do Muslim people marry in I wonder?!?! Maybe I should have said Vegas drive through too huh? And the deck of ship, since captains can marry? Man, never thought i would have to be so specific so as not to confuse people!!!! Muslims marry in a mosque! Maybe...?
porter218 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 they are very pretty...usually smaller though? I am hoping to have a gigantic wedding...considering that me marrying is highly unlikely, if & when the time comes, I'm milking it for it's worth! Not really. I have attended some with a guest list in the three digit range. It is no different then planning a church wedding..It just isn't in the church.
Shygirl15 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Muslims marry in a mosque! Maybe...? Mostly at the bride's father's house. I was never engaged, went straight from BF/GF to marriage. Strange.. but yeah, strange things happen.
StartingOver07 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Let me put it to you this way: I have a theory, the bigger the wedding the greater the chance of the marriage failing. I second this! Far too many people (women people, for the most part) care much more about the wedding than the marriage.
Touche Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I second this! Far too many people (women people, for the most part) care much more about the wedding than the marriage. It's true isn't it? I don't get that. Never have. My first wedding was very fancy, shmancy at a world renowned hotel. My second wedding blew the first one away. And it was on our deck of our home with the beautiful mountain views in the background. The food was all home made and so was the decor. Oh and no little live orchestral ensemble in sight like the last time. I wouldn't have traded it for the world. I swear, I think the wedding is like an omen of things to come. My first wedding was formal and stuffy. And the marriage was a disaster. My second wedding was classy but informal. Very, very laid back. There was dancing and fun and no formality to it whatsoever. There was even a little "glitch" in the middle of the ceremony that made us both laugh. (My stepson was the best man/ring bearer and handed me my own ring and H his own ring:laugh:)
porter218 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 It's true isn't it? I don't get that. Never have. My first wedding was very fancy, shmancy at a world renowned hotel. My second wedding blew the first one away. And it was on our deck of our home with the beautiful mountain views in the background. The food was all home made and so was the decor. Oh and no little live orchestral ensemble in sight like the last time. I wouldn't have traded it for the world. I swear, I think the wedding is like an omen of things to come. My first wedding was formal and stuffy. And the marriage was a disaster. My second wedding was classy but informal. Very, very laid back. There was dancing and fun and no formality to it whatsoever. There was even a little "glitch" in the middle of the ceremony that made us both laugh. (My stepson was the best man/ring bearer and handed me my own ring and H his own ring:laugh:) I wonder if it is because these "fancy schmancy" weddings lack the intimacy that the smaller home grown weddings have. Maybe the formality of those extreme weddings makes the vows seem less important.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 I wonder if it is because these "fancy schmancy" weddings lack the intimacy that the smaller home grown weddings have. Maybe the formality of those extreme weddings makes the vows seem less important. Hmm, that is interesting. Maybe also because there are tons of people there who the bride and groom don't even know, so it may seem less schedule that the people watching them exchange vows don't really know them. I prefer small weddings myself, they are more quaint and intimate.
Touche Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I wonder if it is because these "fancy schmancy" weddings lack the intimacy that the smaller home grown weddings have. Maybe the formality of those extreme weddings makes the vows seem less important. But I would have thought it would have been the other way around. Turns out though that the ceremony has nothing whatsoever to do with (and has absolutely no bearing on) the strength of the commitment and the compatibility of the two people involved.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 But I would have thought it would have been the other way around. Turns out though that the ceremony has nothing whatsoever to do with (and has absolutely no bearing on) the strength of the commitment and the compatibility of the two people involved. Yeah, this is true. Big wedding/small wedding or how long you are engaged, the only thing that matter is if you are committed and compatible. Couples don't get divorced just because they had a huge fancy wedding.
Art_Critic Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Couples don't get divorced just because they had a huge fancy wedding. .. some have.. because of the debt... then there are the couples that breakup before the wedding because of the wedding
Touche Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Yeah, this is true. Big wedding/small wedding or how long you are engaged, the only thing that matter is if you are committed and compatible. Couples don't get divorced just because they had a huge fancy wedding. I know. You're absolutely, right. It's just my dumb little theory that the bigger the wedding the bigger the chances of divorce. I keep seeing this played out. But I'm sure just as many people divorce who have had the smaller weddings too.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 I know. You're absolutely, right. It's just my dumb little theory that the bigger the wedding the bigger the chances of divorce. I keep seeing this played out. But I'm sure just as many people divorce who have had the smaller weddings too. One of my boyfriend's freinds got his entire wedding paid for by his bride and it was this huge romantic thing. A year later they are divorced. He told us later that he resented the fact that because her parent's paid she "selected" certain guests to come and excluded others. One of their other friends actually didn't get invited because she didn't like him. I think he probably resents her for that.
Touche Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 One of my boyfriend's freinds got his entire wedding paid for by his bride and it was this huge romantic thing. A year later they are divorced. He told us later that he resented the fact that because her parent's paid she "selected" certain guests to come and excluded others. One of their other friends actually didn't get invited because she didn't like him. I think he probably resents her for that. Amazing how many couples to have conflicts over a wedding. It's very telling. It can really be a window into the future of the marriage. Also, another biggie which tells you if you're really compatible or not, is how well you get along on vacation. And I don't mean a long weekend. Like a week or longer vacation.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 Amazing how many couples to have conflicts over a wedding. It's very telling. It can really be a window into the future of the marriage. Also, another biggie which tells you if you're really compatible or not, is how well you get along on vacation. And I don't mean a long weekend. Like a week or longer vacation. Yeah thats totally true. It's like 24/7 of being with the same person. A little light bickering is to be expected when you are together THAT much, I mean you can't agree on everything. But yeah, I def. agree that it is a test of your relationship.
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