poweller15 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I am totally blank when it comes to talking to her! At first me and her could talk for aagggess on msn about school etc but now I have run out of things to say. She sends me alot of smileys and winks and when i said im crap at modern languages she told me she was good sat them and could come over and help me and gave me a wink. But the point is I love her so much. Obviousley her looks are a factor but also she is just a lovely person. But I need to know what to talk to her about and how to talk abut it because it seems a little wierd out of nothing to say so what music do you like or something like that. thanks!
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 What about when you're talking with her in person? Do you experience the same problem then? I only ask because I find that on MSN (or any IM for that matter), I do tend to run out of things to talk about. However, talking with someone in person is another matter. If you don't talk to her much in person, now is the time to change that. Take her up on her language offer! If she really does know other languages, ask her where she learned them (unless it's something obvious, like she's blatantly Asian and knows Mandarin). If she's Polynesian and knows Russian, there's probably a lot of stories to be told. Of course, if it is an obvious connection, you can always ask her about the Old Country. There's always an angle. Better yet, go mallratting with her for an hour or two. Although, like most guys, I hate malls and find that wandering them serves no purpose whatsoever, when you're trying to get to know a girl better, it's a gold mine. Benefits of mallratting include... Lots of close contact time with minimal interruptions (saying hi to a few friends you pass by - but don't hang with them today. You want her focused on YOU).Plenty of topics to talk about (that Lambo in the parking lot, the guy wearing the tie-dye shirt, etc.).This should lead to making her laugh a few times*. [*]The opportunity to see her in something sexy (when window shopping, when she sees something that she likes but wouldn't buy, convince her to try it on, just for fun. Offer to hold her purse, too. That'll score you big points). [*]All this for the low, low price of a lunch at the food court, and maybe an Orange Julius with two straws. Online conversations can only take you so far. It sounds like you've hit that plateau, so now if you want it to progress, you have to step it up from online to in person. * = . She being . If you = , then (by the previous equation) you = . If she being , then she being around you! (Sorry, no smiley for you!) Then, later down the road, :bunny: = , but that's for another discussion...
Ronni_W Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I need to know what to talk to her about and how to talk When ANY conversation goes into a too-long lull, it is perfectly appropriate to ask a question or introduce a new topic to get things started again. Here's a link to a previous thread that dealt with this same question. Especially see Gunny's suggestions (#s 4 and 7.) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t154653/ Then just listen to her answers, and follow-up from there -- ask for clarification, tell of a similar experience that you had or heard of...if you can manage to stay cool and relaxed, you'll notice that things will just flow smoothly and naturally.
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