Author aloneatnights Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 MTL i really hope you have someone to talk to. i dont mean this board although its a godsend, i mean someone real who can give you a hug and hold you close and basically validate your feelings. my friend was there for me and she listened and sympathised and also told me i was worth more (this goes for you too wildsoul). i talked until i was bored with talking about it, i cried to her until i couldnt cry any more. she let me cry and snot and rant and rage and it really really helped. i just hope that anyone going through this isnt totally on their own. no offense to the board, its been invalubale to me. i feel almost healed, sometimes blue but most days are now up days. MTL, seriously, deal with what you can handle, nothing more. please dont hurt yourself like i did
White Flower Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 ironically another man has asked me to hang out with him and he is married !!! i must be a magnet... anyhoo i said yes, course we can hang out WHEN I GET A CALL FROM YOUR WIFE SAYING ITS OK funny, not heard from him since .... LOL Hilarious! And I'm curious as to how we become magnets. Hmm. NOT! We're not MM magnets...there are just so many unhappy MM out there. Cheating will never stop. It will always be out there. But our experience reminds us of the pain to never do it again. ps Have you found the kitties? LOL.
Author aloneatnights Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 well the dog has to pass away frist then i will start collecting as well as knitting needles and wool lol. cant help thinking 'so many unhappy MMs out there' cant you finish one before starting on another? guess that would make life too easy eh! going through days of resentment and bitterness but mainly ho hum whatever days now
mytruelove Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 thanks for your kind words. i am very gratful for a wonderful support system of family and friends that i can talk to, but i don't go into details as i feel a strong need to protect my guy...we promised each other that we could trust each other (as we both have trust issues) and believe me it took a long long time to get him to trust me...i don't want to do anything to violate that trust. however, i know they are there for me and very supportive when i need them and i do lean on them. "MTL, seriously, deal with what you can handle, nothing more. please dont hurt yourself like i did"... great advice...YEP that is exactly how i am trying to handle this ...day by day... and believe me i'm good at running if things get too intense or are more than i can handle. i've become very good at doing that because of the intense passionate personalities of both my guy and me...i know when i need to back away for my own health...at least i hope i do!!! that's what i'm trying at least. have a great day!!! glad your doing okay.
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