DanOfOntario Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I just found this website a few days ago, and checked out a few posts, decided to join and get some input. People here seem more willing to help out than a lot of other places, so I'll give it a shot. I'm 20, and I've got some self esteem issues that centre nearly entirely on the dating/relationship front. It has to do with having always been rejected when I ask a girl out on a date or anything of the sort. I've only ever had two say yes, and both times I ended up being stood up. It's bugged me for a while, I've tried figuring out why it keeps happening, but haven't got a clue. I have no problem making friends for the most part, but anytime I show any interest beyond that it usually turns sour. I know I'm a rather shy guy around girls I feel an attraction to, but I really don't think that is much of the problem. I've seen lots of responses that say rejection makes you stronger, and teaches you. I want to know what I'm supposed to learn if all my efforts the past several years have still resulted in 0 dates. Any input is greatly appreciated.
Lovelybird Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 hi, before dealing with rejection, you have to learn about yourself. how do you feel about yourself? relax with yourself? accept yourself even when you did wrong? too uptight with yourself and others? about dealing with rejection, I heard Joyce Meyer one time said this "if you ask not, you will not get; but before you ask, you should be able to handle 'no'". That means don't make a big deal out of a 'no', and be easy going, if so, you have to have confidence about yourself, and very sure about the core of yourself. If other reject you, you still can sure about your value not changed because of the rejection. you are so young, I don't think it is a problem, a learning process, yes
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