rocketgirl138 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Hey I just need some advice on this particular subject. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. He works at a restaurant that his mother owns. His mother hates me and has tried to sabotage our relationship on a few occasions. No matter what lies she spreads and the amount of times she has talked down to me I’ve been very respectful to her. I do not like his mother due to how she treats her son and her lack of respect for our relationship. A while back she hired this waitress that she considers her “adopted daughter”. After a while he befriended her and wanted me to meet her figuring that we had a lot in common and would get along. I was excited to meet her and when the opportunity arose she bailed out but continued to text him through out the night. My bf expressed his concerned that she might have liked him. So I gave him the advice that it might in fact be true but take in consideration that she is lonely and since she moved from out of state she probably wanted friends. I did say that he should be aware just in case anything happens he should not be caught off guard. A few days later she had told him that she didn’t come out because she didn’t want to meet me, which was the same day they kissed. While this happened we were going through some tough relationship problems and that is his reasons for doing this. When his mother found out she was happy that he did this and encouraged him to be with her. Shortly after that he told this girl that he loved me and wanted to fix things and because of his mother’s reaction along with mine he quit his job. Since he couldn’t find employment and job stability he went back to work at his mother’s restaurant. I supported his decision because we needed money and I figure that if he was going to stray again it would be someone else, so why fret over this one dumb girl. Since than he has not been friendly to her if anything he is rude to the girl. I’m not going to lie, its refreshing to see him act cold to her and because she did put up somewhat of a fight when I confronted her on the issue along with teaming up with his mother. However the reason for him acting this way is because of me. He had told me that he wouldn’t mind befriending her again and the reason he will not is because of me. I feel good about the situation but im still feeling messed up because I want him to not befriend her not just for my sake but on his own intuition. Just recently his mother started inviting this girl to family functions. That really bothered me. I came face to face with this girl and I was extremely nervous and scared. Not because of her but I was afraid of my own reaction. So after thinking about it for a while I decided to take the bigger approach and to introduce myself in a friendly matter since we all had a few months to stew over it. I still feel upset by this whole thing and is trying my hardest to move on but im finding it impossible considering that this girl will always be looming in the backround still having eyes for my man.
LikeCharlotte Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I see you have moved this to the coping section. =) Hopefully someone will see it there.
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