amythan Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Hi ! After some time healing from a sad break up i decided to date again but without looking for a very serious relationship. Just having fun and enjoying the summer. I meet three guys and i like all of them for different reasons and not in the same way. #1 Super charming and classy British guy, not living in my country. We used to work together and i am sure he likes me. When i am in England he always asks me to go for lunch, drinks .. we speak almost every day. Not big convos, just jokes, catch up, advise ... BUT i think he has a girlfriend even if he never talks about her. He is asking me when i am in London and we can make plans and blah blah .. #2 A coworker. Younger than me. A player for sure but a friend. We are both expats so we spent lots of time together. We will travel to a party destination together and he always wants me to hang out. We flirt massively and when we go out we hold hands and we have lots of physical contact but he never tried to go further. I really like him but i do not think he is a bf material. Also he confuses me with his behaviour - sometimes i think he likes me sometimes he seems to do not care. #3 A friend of a friend. Also living in a different country. We met in feb and we really clicked. From then he texts me all the time asking me to go for a long week end with him and stuff. He is flirty (even too much). He wants to come visiting me but i always give the 'i am busy' and he keeps on trying. I guess he just wants sex. My question is .... is any of them worth it ?? Thanks a lot for your advice !
bigmanpayne Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 we would have no idea if any of them are worth it or not. are you leaning towards one over an other?
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Here's my rule of thumb. Don't know if it will work for you. If it's not an easy choice, none are worthwhile since you don't have strong emotions thus preferences for one. If you're just looking to have fun, then multi-date, as long as they all know that's the case. Avoid the guy with a g/f. A guy who will cheat on someone else, will most likely cheat on you. Historical behaviour on average, dictates current and future behaviour.
Ronni_W Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 I'm sorry, but I'm totally not getting what you are looking to decide, or why you are needing to decide(?) Are they worth what? You seem to be having fun and enjoying their individual company, which is what you said you want. In my books, that would make them worth fun and good company. Since you are not looking for "serious, exclusive, committed" (at least, that's what I got from your post), why not just keep everything exactly as it is? Especially since you haven't indicated anything that you want/need to change, either.
Author amythan Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 I am sorry. I think you are right and it was not clear what is the advice i am looking for. It is true that i am having fun and i am not obsessed to have a relationship but i am not ruling out this possibility. I really like the guy #2 but he does make me feel confused so i guess this is not a good thing. #1 is the perfect guy but due to the fact he has a gf it could be a drama situation. What i was wondering is if any of them could be interested enough to be focus on and try to establish a deeper relationship. I do not want to be rejected or put too much energy if i am heading the wall. On the other hand perhaps your rule can apply. If i am hesitating it means that i do not have enough interest for any of them.
Mako482 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 All I know is it would suck to be two of these guys, I often wonder if I am part of this type of a scenario with a woman I am dating lol. Waiting to be the pick of the litter or sent to the pound any day now.
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