tb3214 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. We were together for almost 2 years. We pretty much broke up because I am an idiot and took her for granted. I was afraid of my feelings for her so I ended doing things to push her away. I never cheated or anything like that I would just do stupid things like hang out with my friends instead of with her. I don't think she ever felt like a priority and I was too much of a little kid to admit to myself that she was a priority. Then a few weeks ago I guess she finally had enough and I can't blame her. I thought that I would be able to handle this but the more I time that goes on the more and more I regret. We had talked once since the break up and that was immediately after it had happened. It was a mistake to call and I think it may have done more harm than good since I probably came off hurt and desperate. Since then I have been reflecting on our relationship and trying to figure out how I could have made things work. I realized that she didn't ask for that much and I was too insecure to even give her that. I know I can make her happy but she has no reason to believe me. So I have been trying the NC thing, which sucks by the way, and in that time I know now that being with her is what I want most. She ended up calling me yesterday and we talked for about 10 minutes. I didn't bring up anything I just tried to be nice and make her laugh whenever I could. We were talking like nothing had happened. I am very confused after that. I want to call her and talk to her more but I also want to give her space. I don't know if she called because she missed me or she was worried about me or just to talk to a friend. I don't really know what to do now. She is going to graduate from college next week and I was going to drop off some flowers and a graduation card. Should I even do that? I was going to write a letter to her, I've actually written a bunch of letters and was going to pick out the one that seemed the least desperate sounding, but now that she called me I don't know if I should. Should I just write something short in the card? Any thoughts on this whatsoever would be appreciated.
nopainnogain Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Your on a good thing here. You kept your diggnity after the break . Thats why she is calling. You also realize your short cummings in the R. Send her the flowers and card,nothing extravagant tho.. Keep working on yourself and stay aloof .
saams Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Imo Tell her how you feel, tell her the stuff you wrote here and just be nice to her, show her that you are still interested in her and you want her back, but not in a desperate way. give her the flowers you talked about and write the letter to her, make it short and dont sound too '' needy '' if she still loves you she will respond to those kind of things and maybe you will be able to work it out. good luck with it
TrustInYourself Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Call her back and tell her bros before hoes. Holla.
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