orangehose Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 This may not be something for the coping board, but since I feel like I've been in the coping stage for the past few months, I thought I'd post it here... Maybe it's just the spell of good weather where I've been living, or some transient influx of brain hormones, or the fact that I've just talked to a bunch of friends this week who are going through hell (or recently went through hell) in their relationships, but... it's not feeling so bad to be single. In fact, it's been feeling quite all right, thank you very much. Immediately after my breakup, I was in relationship withdrawal and wanted nothing more than to hop into a new one. For better or worse, though, I didn't rebound. And now I'm beginning to rediscover the perks of singlehood. Including the following: - get to do whatever I want - have more mental space to think about my future goals - have time for my hobbies - get to focus on my career - actually have time to read and pay attention to what's happening in the world - don't have to waste precious time / mental energy on 'issues' and assorted drama - don't have to endure put-downs that chip away at my self-confidence - don't have to endure crappy sex - am closer to family and friends - sleep better without another log in the bed - life just feels calmer and less hectic when not having to constantly adapt to another person's schedule Okay, so some of these may be specific to my relationship but you know what, this list has had me thinking... it's not so bad to be single. A very odd feeling to experience after these months of moping, but I'm glad to be at this mental place right now (I'll probably have another spell of loneliness soon enough )
tealeafbud Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 it's all about you Mr. Orange. thanks for the post. I'm using this period as a time of self discovery. I've realized that everything I gravitate towards is generally opposite than what my ex would gravitate towards. It's kind of sad, but very relieving in a way.
kizik Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 it's all about you Mr. Orange. FYI I do believe it's Ms. Orange. Thanks much for this post O.H., it's exactly what I needed to hear. I wish I had some friends w/ R problems! B/c that would make me feel better. You're right, it really isn't so bad. It can actually be seen as a blessing, if you wanna go that far. Just a chance to clear my head w/o that bitch yapping in my ear is helpful.
loveinlife Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 This may not be something for the coping board, but since I feel like I've been in the coping stage for the past few months, I thought I'd post it here... Maybe it's just the spell of good weather where I've been living, or some transient influx of brain hormones, or the fact that I've just talked to a bunch of friends this week who are going through hell (or recently went through hell) in their relationships, but... it's not feeling so bad to be single. In fact, it's been feeling quite all right, thank you very much. Immediately after my breakup, I was in relationship withdrawal and wanted nothing more than to hop into a new one. For better or worse, though, I didn't rebound. And now I'm beginning to rediscover the perks of singlehood. Including the following: - get to do whatever I want - have more mental space to think about my future goals - have time for my hobbies - get to focus on my career - actually have time to read and pay attention to what's happening in the world - don't have to waste precious time / mental energy on 'issues' and assorted drama - don't have to endure put-downs that chip away at my self-confidence - don't have to endure crappy sex - am closer to family and friends - sleep better without another log in the bed - life just feels calmer and less hectic when not having to constantly adapt to another person's schedule Okay, so some of these may be specific to my relationship but you know what, this list has had me thinking... it's not so bad to be single. A very odd feeling to experience after these months of moping, but I'm glad to be at this mental place right now (I'll probably have another spell of loneliness soon enough ) Im glad you are enjoying your single life. Although I like it too, I like the part where i can hold and sleep with a girl at night. But like you said, relationships isn't that great, i do have problems with the current girl im dating. I want to find a better one. Im sorta scraping on whats left and not enjoying what you are. Best of luck to you bro!
replicator Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 I'm beginning to see that it isn't so bad either. I can do what I what, when I want.. Only answer to myself. Sure it feels lonesome sometimes, but when I am in another relationship I want to be comfortable being myself so I am never again in the situation where I feel unease trying to please someone else. I want to be me, and accepted for being me. Until I meet someone like that, I'll be working on myself - living my life. Kudos.
kyta Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 Havnt posted for a few day or a weeks havnt checked, but this topic is great, 3months now and i dont give a flying **** about her, cant believe i was actully upset, i look back to a cpl wks bak and i felt ok but she was in my mind, and did have some up down days, but now i dont, i can only say i dont want to feel like crap, her choice, now im free to do as i please, went out friday with my friend Lisa and had the best nite ever, we danced all nite, got pissed up went back to hers ended up in bed (mistake) but still friends and really good friends, i havnt been this happy for a few yrs, i dont wake up thinking of her, i dont miss her, i dont care what shes doing, i got my friends ive lost all the weight i put on with her, my confidence is back, and i thank her for what she had given me. I know your thinking this wont last long, but i know how i feel and i feel great, my life is moving forward at a rapid pace and i love it, i love me, i love beeing happy, and all a relationaship does is bog you down with some one elses crap, nope not for me, hapy is the way, and tequila has some of the answers, im not worried about meeting some one new, its easy to meet new ppl, yep life is great if you let go, but you need to let go, and thats what i have done, i have cut the string between us, there is no going bak, she can wallow in her own sh*t while i enjoy life. All you have to do is let go and your happiness will come, lonliness is just a state of mind, believe your lonely and you will be, believe you dont need some one to make you whole and everything falls in to place.
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