beautiful_stranger Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Hi All, just a quick question that I need an answer for before I feel like I could move on with my life. I am very interested in this guy, but he is deeply infatuated with a girl who has a long term yet long distance boyfriend. The thing with me is that it takes me literally years to fall for someone, and what is so special about this someone is that he makes me feel completely at ease and comfortable when I am spending time with him - seems to take years for me to meet someone who makes me feel like this. Nonetheless it makes me feel hurt when he appears so confused/sad over the girl he likes. So my question is which of the following path seem to be logical? 1. To move on, go NC, delete all his contacts, and in a few months time the thought of him may fade. 2. Keep on trying, throwing hints at him showing my interest (which I have been doing for the past months but getting no real response, apart from one or two passes of flirtatiousness.) 3. Be the "understanding/supportive"friend, and wait for him to hopefully realize that the girl has a bf and is leading him on for fun/out of boredom? Yet respecting the fact that he can't help what he feels and that I will always be there fore him? (But at the same time i know it would give me a sickening feeling whenever he mentions/thinks of her.) What do you think I should do guys and girls? Thanks in advance for your input. =)
sultry33 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Hi All, just a quick question that I need an answer for before I feel like I could move on with my life. I am very interested in this guy, but he is deeply infatuated with a girl who has a long term yet long distance boyfriend. The thing with me is that it takes me literally years to fall for someone, and what is so special about this someone is that he makes me feel completely at ease and comfortable when I am spending time with him - seems to take years for me to meet someone who makes me feel like this. Nonetheless it makes me feel hurt when he appears so confused/sad over the girl he likes. So my question is which of the following path seem to be logical? 1. To move on, go NC, delete all his contacts, and in a few months time the thought of him may fade. 2. Keep on trying, throwing hints at him showing my interest (which I have been doing for the past months but getting no real response, apart from one or two passes of flirtatiousness.) 3. Be the "understanding/supportive"friend, and wait for him to hopefully realize that the girl has a bf and is leading him on for fun/out of boredom? Yet respecting the fact that he can't help what he feels and that I will always be there fore him? (But at the same time i know it would give me a sickening feeling whenever he mentions/thinks of her.) What do you think I should do guys and girls? Thanks in advance for your input. =) move on... your always going to be second best to his "dream girl" who is out of reach for him.. which in tiself makes him want her more.. im like you i dont find that many guys right for me.. high standards? not over my ex.. who knows? but you NEVER need to be 2nd best to anyone imo:)
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