pickingupthepieces Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Do you ever have those days where you can't even look at yourself in the mirror.. I mean I just feel so worthless..... I see all of his "friends" pictures on FB and its like they are SO hot... and here I am just well YUCK.. why did he ever date someone like me?
0hpenelope Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Life Lesson #12314353: Don't compare yourself to others - they are more f-cked up than you think. So many of LS posts have dissected and hacked into pieces Facebook/Myspace/etc. issues and the nearly unanimous consensus in one topic is this: that no one is going to post pictures of themselves looking miserable. Only a crackpot would think that posting his/her Mugshot from the local precinct is awesome. Those people are always going to look nice and shiny and happy and smiling and having a good time and always surrounded by friends. If not dressed up, then dressed down and comfortable and smiling and laughing and having a good time - wait. I'm just repeating myself. Point is, they're always going to showcase their good states. In a lot of ways, Facebook and MySpace are very misleading. And please don't tell me that these people you're seeing look glorious even when drunk. There is nothing - absolutely nothing - classy about being drunk and getting photographs to document drunken states. This goes for men and women, but I'm particularly concerned about us girls. I don't find myself particularly pretty or attractive, but I do have standards that I uphold: if I don't smell bad and as long as the majority of babies I smile at keep smiling back at me, then I must be easy on the eyes. What are yours? I think all girls have this. "I feel prettiest when..." Do not perpetuate such thoughts about yourself. You're only fueling the fire. I honestly believe that all of us are only as attractive as we feel and we project that. Others pick up on it. If you've thoroughly convinced yourself that you're ugly, then you will be ugly. I know you're not, though. My $0.10 on social networks + self-perception of attractiveness. I have given it.
tealeafbud Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Listen to Penelope, she knows what she is talking about. She's very wise and gives excellent advice. We can all learn from her. Anyhoo, I've never reached a point where I can't look in the mirror, but I have thought about how no one will love me as much as my ex, but that's total Bull because I put my faith in myself and in God that I'll find someone at some point in time. Maybe not tomorrow, or next week, but maybe next month, next year. Whatever it is, just keep living your life and spreading the love with friends and family. I've quit logging into myspace for a little while because I found that when I did, I'd always be prone to check "her" profile, so I just quit. I might log into my own profile next week, but I dare not check her prof. It's already working. The less I know about her, the better. It really does help, wow. I"m pretty amazed at myself. I have other things to worry about and consume my thoughts than her profile...geez ya know?
sultry33 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 hey op.. my ex has models on his facebook.. used to drive me nuts.. theres my pic next to theres etc.. but you know we are all great in our own way:D i got so fed up i added loads of tanned muscled hunks to mine.. 2 can play that game.. but deep down i loved him and id have replaced every pic to his anyday.. its true you need to love yourself then others will.. smile.. be happy smell nice treat yourself and have lots of fun..dont dwell on what you think is ugly i go out and too many guys takes pics of me and im told im hot/cute sexy blar blar de blar lol.. but you know i see the pics and i hate them... so maybe your just like me.. too critical;) one guy said im his hero.. wats that about? im not a skin bean im a curvy happy girl who smiles on the outside.. cries inside.. feel better about yourself and the rest will come:) and look at pics of celebs without there war paint on:bunny:
HeatherAngel Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Do you ever have those days where you can't even look at yourself in the mirror../quote] Not any more. This was a huge shock to me. I just thought that's who I was - ugly inside and out. That wasn't HIS fault - but it might be a result of what became a mutually-toxic relationship.
HeatherAngel Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Do you ever have those days where you can't even look at yourself in the mirror.. Not any more. This was a huge shock to me. I just thought that's who I was - ugly inside and out. That wasn't HIS fault - but it might be a result of what became a mutually-toxic relationship. Sorry - double post.
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