Jersey Shortie Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I would kiss him on the cheek or something. Want to know what's hilarious? It's when a guy expects a full kiss on a 1st date. I don' think anyone said anything about expecting a full kiss. If I really liked a guy, and was in the moment, I'd let him kiss me on the first date. If I wasn't ready, I would just tell him I liked him but Iwasn't ready yet for that. I certainly don't want a guy to call me up and be like "do you like me?" It's immature and takes all the fun out of it.
Shygirl15 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I never realized I was under attack on this thread. Geez! So it wouldn't ruin any chance of seeing you - a quality woman - again, as you first claimed? By saying that any 'decent woman' wouldn't kiss on the first date you are disparaging all of my previous girlfriends and probably most women on this board. Truth is, and this may not include you, most women will do all sorts with a man who really turns them on - ie not the sort of man who calls up after a date to ask if she likes him. They might not admit that on an internet forum of course. Let me put it this way, IMO, it's always a decent thing to hold back on things like kissing during 1st dates. I admit there are times I have not been so 'decent' myself, so I'm not special. However, looking back, I can not really say I'm proud of such moments. Jersey Shortie: I don' think anyone said anything about expecting a full kiss. If I really liked a guy, and was in the moment, I'd let him kiss me on the first date. If I wasn't ready, I would just tell him I liked him but Iwasn't ready yet for that. I don't think anyone said anything about expecting a full kiss either, I just expressed independent opinion and not responding to anyone in particular. Jersey Shortie: I certainly don't want a guy to call me up and be like "do you like me?" It's immature and takes all the fun out of it. I certainly do. It exhibits confidence and boldness, qualities I find so attractive in a guy. Want to know what's immature? Asking a bunch of strangers if a girl, whom they know nothing about, likes you or not. And by the way, the correct phrase was "what do you think of me?"
The Collector Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 You're not under attack, so need need to play the victim card. Let's recap - my first post suggested that the OP might have a clearer indication of his dates interest if he tried to kiss her. I didn't mean artlessly lunge at her, clearly, but going for a peck on the lips or cheek would give him some idea, could lead to something else, or save him some time if she looked absolutely disgusted. What it would not do is put her off ever seeing him again, as you first claimed. I won't bother defending Jersey Shortie as she's quite capable of doing that herself, but you did indeed say something about a full kiss being a hilariously unlikely thing to expect - then confess that you have done such a thing (unless being not so decent meant something else). Whether your proud of yourself after has little to do with the OPs desire to find out whether the girl liked him - I'm guessing that despite your later shame the fact you kissed someone meant you found them attractive? And you advised the OP to call the girl and ask 'so, what do you think of me?' You are free to believe this exhibits confidence and boldness, but I think you might be in the minority there. In my opinion, such an action would be hugely counter-productive and display just the opposite qualities.
Shygirl15 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 You're not under attack, so need need to play the victim card. Let's recap - my first post suggested that the OP might have a clearer indication of his dates interest if he tried to kiss her. I didn't mean artlessly lunge at her, clearly, but going for a peck on the lips or cheek would give him some idea, could lead to something else, or save him some time if she looked absolutely disgusted. What it would not do is put her off ever seeing him again, as you first claimed. I won't bother defending Jersey Shortie as she's quite capable of doing that herself, but you did indeed say something about a full kiss being a hilariously unlikely thing to expect - then confess that you have done such a thing (unless being not so decent meant something else). Whether your proud of yourself after has little to do with the OPs desire to find out whether the girl liked him - I'm guessing that despite your later shame the fact you kissed someone meant you found them attractive? And you advised the OP to call the girl and ask 'so, what do you think of me?' You are free to believe this exhibits confidence and boldness, but I think you might be in the minority there. In my opinion, such an action would be hugely counter-productive and display just the opposite qualities. Look, I will not go back-and-forth on this as I'm really not the type. I'm not sure what crap you have written up there since I will not bother to read, but I'll say this: you're entitled to your own opinion and so am I. I offered my suggestions to OP, and not to you so you're not in a position to challenge an advice that was not even directed to you. It's up to him to decide what he wants to do. Thank you.
AriaIncognito Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 In my opinion, offering to pay (at least reaching for the wallet) is the right thing to do on any date. I don't necessarily think it's fair to a man that he pay for everything just because 50 years ago, that's how it was (as women were homemakers and not out making their own salaries). Do I enjoy it when a man takes me out and pays, absolutely, but I don't think it should play any indicator in if I'm into him or not. My first date with my current bf he paid. I did offer to put money in, he said it was his treat, and that was that. It had no bearing on my liking him or not, or my being unsure about him or not. As far as other friends I know, they've let the man pay on a first date regardless of their intention for a 2nd date, so I really don't think you can gauge a woman's interest by this factor. Did she flirty touch you? Did you flirty touch her? Was there a lot of smiling or laughing? That kinda stuff will let you know if there will be a 2nd date.
A.G.Doren Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 I always let the guy pay at least on our first date, and that has nothing to do with me liking him or not. I think it's the respectful thing to do allowing a man be a man. Quoted for truth!
JoeNewbie Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 I think that generally if she lets you pay it is a good sign. However, there are women who are not interested and will let you pay - and women who are interested but won't let you pay. I would ask her out again.
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