DunnoWhat Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 A girl I have been dating and I have decided tonight we won't meet anymore. Even though I really like her and she said she likes me.... the reason is complicated and not important now. It was actually hard for me to say goodbye and on the train just before we were about to say goodbye for the last time we gazed into each others eyes for ages saying nothing just gazing and she held my hand briefly. I'm home now it's early in the morning and she's on msn trying to send me a pic she took of me. I'm looking at the msn and I can't talk to her.. My question is how much interest had she?
almost famous Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Not very or she wouldn't have let it end so easily.
Author DunnoWhat Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 Not very or she wouldn't have let it end so easily. But do you gaze into somebody's eyes for ages if you were just friends? Myabe that was her way of saying goodbye?
Author DunnoWhat Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 Question for the women mostly... would you do that girls?
sultry33 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 yeah sometimes if i like the person.. but you have not given us alot to go by.. how long was you dating? reasons for both ending it? its hard to give any advice with limitations like this;)
Shygirl15 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 I don't gaze into my friends' eyes for ages; I only gaze at guys I like, as a way of saying I'm interested or like them. She may still like you a lot.
Author DunnoWhat Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 yeah sometimes if i like the person.. but you have not given us alot to go by.. how long was you dating? reasons for both ending it? its hard to give any advice with limitations like this;) Well we went on 4 dates over the past 5 weeks. She is in a relationship with a married man who is a millionaire and takes her on holidays every months and buys her expensive things. She said she comes from a poor country in Eastern Europe so it's like a dream for her. I told her the other week that she has to make up her mind... me or him. We went on a date yesterday and near the end I asked her did she want to meet again or am I wasting my time... she put her head down started looking at a magazine (dunno why) and said it's best we don't meet. Then we just gazed into each others eyes for ages on the train. She said she liked me and liked being with me but she was not going to leave her man yet. She also said we're not in love and I said I didn't love her and showed no interest towards her but I showed interest last night and on the previous date.
Author DunnoWhat Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 I don't gaze into my friends' eyes for ages; I only gaze at guys I like, as a way of saying I'm interested or like them. She may still like you a lot. Yeah i think so too but it looks like her rich boyfriend has her even though she doesn't love him.
sptu Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 does really attract you a girl that takes advantage of a rich man?!??anyway, thats up to you but i think she likes you but its what she said : she cant sacrifice her "happiness" just to be with you...poor girl
xpaperxcutx Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 You obviously don't need to care whether she likes you or not. She's not going to pick you over the "millionaire". She's materialistic and you can't offer her much. I'm just stating the obvious.
Mako482 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 I'd move on from this one friend, as much as it may hurt you now you will be better off in the long run.
sultry33 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 yea money cant buy you love.. in time she will realise that.. find a girl that wants you for you.. you have to make your own fortune in life imo.. you deserve better op:)
Author DunnoWhat Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 I've an update... she done a bit of a u-turn regarding us not meeting anymore. She was on msn all day but I didn't talk to her until tonight. It went something like this: I said hi and she pretended she got a phone call... it seemed a bit awkward, on msn! We started off talking about our day blah blah etc. She then said she was tired and going to bed soon. Then I mentioned the date and how it went. She mentioned how I should take girls on breakfast dates for some reason and kept saying things about what i should do on my dates. I told her I'm not going on any because I'm taking a break from them. Then she said "well if you have no one to meet maybe we could go places sometime" and "I'm sorry didn't mean to mess you with lies" and "I though we could be friends". And she talked about how she never danced with me or have picnic, or tequila night. This was all after saying we shouldn't meet again the previous night after I asked her was she wasting my time. I questioned her on why she wanted to meet ie I told her not to feel sorry for me etc and she said she wasn't but "we both enjoyed each others company". So then she sends me a link of a place where they do meditation etc.. and mentions about me getting a brochure! Then she tells me to have a look at places to go or festivals "anywhere in the country" and she said "I'm up for it" and let her know where when she comes back. So I said ok sure and we said our goodbyes again. Then she sends me a pic of herself and then another pic and another pic of herself in nice dresses (because I was talking about her not wearing dresses) etc. She was online almost 1 hour after first suggesting she should go to sleep and sounded alot happier nearing the end. So thats basically it. I don't know whats happening. All her words say friends but her actions say something else. I suggested we don't meet for a while but it sounded to me like she wants to meet the weekend after shes back from her holiday. She mentioned on the date too that there are lots of men interested in her... and after the date via text message I told her I liked her more than I told her I did.
Author DunnoWhat Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 yea money cant buy you love.. in time she will realise that.. find a girl that wants you for you.. you have to make your own fortune in life imo.. you deserve better op:) Thank you... maybe she will realise it in time. I won't be hanging around too long though for my own sanity if nothing else.
Shygirl15 Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 DunnoWhat, referring to your update of 8:40pm, I would strongly advise to save yourself a heartache and stay away from her as she seems inconsistent and doesn't know what she wants. Looks like she still likes you but being the materialistic girl she is, there's no chance she's going to dump the rich BF over you..
imbewildered Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 So thats basically it. I don't know whats happening. All her words say friends but her actions say something else. I suggested we don't meet for a while but it sounded to me like she wants to meet the weekend after shes back from her holiday. She mentioned on the date too that there are lots of men interested in her... and after the date via text message I told her I liked her more than I told her I did. I know that you want to believe that she may be hiding deeper feelings for you BUT she is not. She has essentially dropped you in the Friend Zone. Women who use men do this because they want to retain the attention that the guy gave them without the bother of having to contribute to a relationship with him. It is exploitation of your feeling for her selfish benefit. Secondly, she has told you, without using the words, that his money is more important than your love. She has chosen to be some rich married guy's wh0re over being your girlfriend. UNless you share her morals and values it would serve you well to cut her off NOW. THis has misery written all over it for you if you persist in hoping that she will change her mind - she has decided already what she wants. oanship.
Author DunnoWhat Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 I know that you want to believe that she may be hiding deeper feelings for you BUT she is not. She has essentially dropped you in the Friend Zone. Women who use men do this because they want to retain the attention that the guy gave them without the bother of having to contribute to a relationship with him. It is exploitation of your feeling for her selfish benefit. Secondly, she has told you, without using the words, that his money is more important than your love. She has chosen to be some rich married guy's wh0re over being your girlfriend. UNless you share her morals and values it would serve you well to cut her off NOW. THis has misery written all over it for you if you persist in hoping that she will change her mind - she has decided already what she wants. oanship. Well I'd say you're right normally but there could be other reasons. She said she was worried about being left on her own. She also said she didn't know i liked her until the 2nd or 3rd date and she complained I didn't show interest. And you don't gaze into somebodys eyes if you see them as being a friend. She told me there are loads of men who like her and want to date her so why would she want to hang out with a "friend"... and not only hang out but go away for the weekend soon. I actually accepted it and was going to move on. I know for a fact she likes me but don't know how much... either way we'll meet again and then see. I've showed her I'm willing to walk away from her... it was me who said "it was nice meeting you" and she then straight away suggested meeting up again. Theres more than 1 form of communication going on and she says 1 thing and then does another. She asked me did I love her a few weeks ago and I laughed it off and she was a bit upset by that... she also told me I seem cold sometimes and maybe she needs to be sure I like her because she said she wanted to be 100% sure. It's not the money she's after its the holidays and good lifestyle. To be fair to her she said from the start she was in a relationship and never lied about anything except about little things regarding ourselves.. keeping her cards close to her chest. It's very complicated.. time will tell all I suppose. Thanks for the input you may be right. She's gone on holiday for a week now so that gives me a break and time to think.
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