hellokitty55 Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I was with my ex bf for 4.5 years. He started acting distant recently but said he still wanted to be with me and that he still loves me. He finally told me he started liking this 17 year old girl at his job. (I'm 21, he's 20)...He said Im too needy and things got boring because we were together all the time everyday. He said he wants to stay good friends and will always want me in his life. We were eachothers first everything, hes never had any other experiences with girls. His mom said he just wants to see what else is out there, and that he'll realize what he had. I stopped texting/calling him but he texts me inviting me to family things still. He still has all of my pictures and letters in his room. We didnt see eachother for 4 days after we broke up and he invited me over, he said he has been really bored and was asking me what i have been up to and who i was with. He said it feels like him and this girl are dating already. (We only broke up 1 week ago)...is she a rebound? will it last?...shes going away to college next year and he said hes not gonna follow her ... If i don't contact him at all for a month or more do you think he will start to miss me and maybe want to eventually get back together?? Has anyone ever broke up with someone, and realized you made a mistake while dating someone else? ALso, I know that if i dont contact him, he will just text me..Should i ignore him or be a friend??
foxh1234 Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Give him space and go complete NC. Drop off the face of the earth for awhile and get yourself together. It will be hard, but worth it in the long run. Don't hang around and be his friend.
JooLee Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 yeah i agree. dont contact him, resist texting him back. or if you cant help texting back play it cool... like you're busy and all that. play hard to get. he'll feel like he's losing you and that will get him running back. you have to be firm.
JooLee Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 my ex is even more insane. i wanted to get my stuff back and found out that he threw everything away! S-hole!!!
torranceshipman Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 As long as you go to his family functions, go round to hang wih him, be his friend, etc, he doesn't have to face up to the reality of he situation. He BROKE UP with you, therefore he loses time with you, he loses the right to see you at family functions, he loses the fun of having you in his life - he loses all that. You need to remind him of the responsibility of his decision by going completely no contact - do NOT see him, do NOT return his calls and let him face up to the fact he can't be with you at all anymore because it was HIS decision to end your relationship. While I think no contact is best for healing and doing positive things for yourself...in this case it also gives you 100% the best chance of getting this guy to totally realise that he's lost you, and to want you back big time after the novelty of the 17y old has worn off. You stay in his life at ALL right now and he has the safe feeling of still having you and will then feel more comfortable having fun with the new girlfriend as he'll feel like he hasnt really lost you at all. Do NOT let that happen!!! Remind him through no contact that he has messed up, lost you for good (even better if you are out and about getting on well without him!) and he may well start to panic and understand what he's done doesnt feel so good. Good luck!
JooLee Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 sorry bout the second post i dont know why it came out here. thought i was posting in the other thread.
babes23 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Give him space and go complete NC. Drop off the face of the earth for awhile and get yourself together. It will be hard, but worth it in the long run. Don't hang around and be his friend. Completely agree, 100%. Afterall what as he got to miss if you're still around?
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