SweetTux Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 So my ex broke up with me on july 4th... since then we were being friends and she always turned to me for help if she had any problems and such and she seemed to always have them... then last friday she asked to borrow money and I said no and she asked if it was because she won't promise to get back with me... I was so shocked by that because i had hundreds of reasons to say no and that was not one of them.. I had been ignoring her since friday and she kept sending me texts about how I should erase her number and stuff and how we needed to exchange stuff. I was busy during the week and didn't want to so I just ignored her. Friday came around and she sent me a threatening msg on myspace that if she didn't get her stuff back asap then **** was gonna happen... but I already planned on exchanging stuff this weekend cause I have time... So I broke NC and we tried to plan when to exchange stuff because we both have plans and such this weekend... I wanted to stay friends because the NC helped a lot but now she doesn't want to be friends.. before NC she did.. NC messed it all up... she also said that shes really happy with the guy shes dating now and doesn't want me to complicate things and wanted her stuff back so she didn't have to look back anymore. She also said that one of the things that I have of hers was given to her by a friend thats in town now and him and his friends aren't happy that I have it and they want it back before they leave this weekend or their gonna take things into their own hands if u know what I mean... Sigh... I don't understand how this happened... She was so happy with me when we were together and I pretty much did anything to make her happy and now it just seems like shes been using me and doesn't care at all... My friend is making me take him today to exchange stuff so that her friends don't try anything when we're there... I honestly dunno what to think or feel or do anymore... I barely slept last nite... I am sad and angry and its stressful... obviously we can't be friends anymore if she doesn't want to... but its just really dumb because I've been there for her and spent so much time and money helping her with problems and such and shes able to just not care about anything... Thx for listening and for your comments...
WiseOne1 Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 So my ex broke up with me on july 4th... since then we were being friends and she always turned to me for help if she had any problems and such and she seemed to always have them... then last friday she asked to borrow money and I said no and she asked if it was because she won't promise to get back with me... I was so shocked by that because i had hundreds of reasons to say no and that was not one of them.. I had been ignoring her since friday and she kept sending me texts about how I should erase her number and stuff and how we needed to exchange stuff. I was busy during the week and didn't want to so I just ignored her. Friday came around and she sent me a threatening msg on myspace that if she didn't get her stuff back asap then **** was gonna happen... but I already planned on exchanging stuff this weekend cause I have time... So I broke NC and we tried to plan when to exchange stuff because we both have plans and such this weekend... I wanted to stay friends because the NC helped a lot but now she doesn't want to be friends.. before NC she did.. NC messed it all up... she also said that shes really happy with the guy shes dating now and doesn't want me to complicate things and wanted her stuff back so she didn't have to look back anymore. She also said that one of the things that I have of hers was given to her by a friend thats in town now and him and his friends aren't happy that I have it and they want it back before they leave this weekend or their gonna take things into their own hands if u know what I mean... Sigh... I don't understand how this happened... She was so happy with me when we were together and I pretty much did anything to make her happy and now it just seems like shes been using me and doesn't care at all... My friend is making me take him today to exchange stuff so that her friends don't try anything when we're there... I honestly dunno what to think or feel or do anymore... I barely slept last nite... I am sad and angry and its stressful... obviously we can't be friends anymore if she doesn't want to... but its just really dumb because I've been there for her and spent so much time and money helping her with problems and such and shes able to just not care about anything... Thx for listening and for your comments... I know how you feel, you cared and you did so much for her, and now she acts like none of that even happened or mattered. And you had everyright to turn her down and not give her money, thats her BF's problem now, thats what hes for! But he probably wont because hes probably using her for just that 1 thing. My ex GF asked me to buy her alot of things and just like when we were together, and I told her no, I said go tell your BF to buy you gifts or go get money from him, and she gets mad. Bassically you should go NC. because shes with someone else but still trying to have her cake and eat it too, shes gotta let her new bf do anything and everything for her.
Author SweetTux Posted August 9, 2008 Author Posted August 9, 2008 I did go NC and it made it worse... but now after we exchange stuff for the last time its going to have to be NC cause she doesn't want to be friends anyways... so its a forced NC... But your right... its her new bf's problem now not mine... sigh... I'll get over it eventually its just tough right now.
wareagle Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Sounds like to me you don't need this woman in your life! She is manipulative and vengeful! Give her **** back and delete her from every aspect of your life and move on! As far as her friends wanting their **** back, tell them to bring it!!!! That's total bull****!!! This makes me angry!!! I am going to say she is very young and immature?
WiseOne1 Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I did go NC and it made it worse... but now after we exchange stuff for the last time its going to have to be NC cause she doesn't want to be friends anyways... so its a forced NC... But your right... its her new bf's problem now not mine... sigh... I'll get over it eventually its just tough right now. I Agree with wareagle, you dont need her. And I know how you feel because NC makes it harder than staying in contact with your ex, for some reason it calms your feelings to know whats there up to or doing. But in the end NC is going to be the best, and the reason why shes asking you for anything is because the other guys only wants to f***! Thats it! He wants nothing else from her, and when she learns that, and trust me she will! shes gonna come back to you. And f*** her friends, why are they treating you like the bad one?? why are they treating you like your the bad person, you havent done anything, they should be coming down on her, because its all her fault and she gave there objects to you anyway. That makes me mad and hits a spot with me, because i've gone thru that before. My ex till this day always asks me to loan her money or buy her something, and shes bi polar so when she gets depressed about bills and such she starts talking about sucide and stuff, and I tell her well you have to talk to your bf about that, I told her I got better women to spend money and give attention to.
Author SweetTux Posted August 9, 2008 Author Posted August 9, 2008 Sounds like to me you don't need this woman in your life! She is manipulative and vengeful! Give her **** back and delete her from every aspect of your life and move on! As far as her friends wanting their **** back, tell them to bring it!!!! That's total bull****!!! This makes me angry!!! I am going to say she is very young and immature? its funny cause shes older than me... I'm 24 and shes 25... but she is sooo immature... everytime she doesn't get what she wants or anything she calls me immature... but i don't say anything cause it just won't go well... UPDATE- I went with my friend to her place to exchange stuff earlier today... when I left she texts me saying "wow u were THAT scared?" i ignored her... but seriously what is that nonsense? I went there she was there with her sister and her new guy I think.. But honestly if she threatens me with friends and stuff she expects me to show up alone? God I wish I never met her... Shes so ungrateful and stuff... After everything I've done and spent on her... sigh... I wish I could just forget it all and move on easily... Also WiseOne1 thx for replying... I hope it ends up for the best and I hope your right that this new guy is only using her... From what it seems so far she is really happy with him and I think he really likes her so I dunno... I do hope it fails and stuff but I don't want her running to me either... I just wish she was the same person I knew when we were first together... Shes totally different now... sigh...
kizik Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Very soon, you are going to realize that this woman is a complete, crazy, out of her mind, insane f*cking nutjob. She is crazy. Repeat, this woman is totally insane. I want you to really think about her actions. Those are not normal actions. In fact, they are so far out there that I question why you are even still communicating with such an unstable, immature whore. ST, I am also 24 and my ex is 25. Stop thinking that she is more mature than you, just because of her age. I made the same assumption, always thinking she was so much smarter... when in fact she is CRAZY just like yours. Your Ex is Insane
Author SweetTux Posted August 9, 2008 Author Posted August 9, 2008 Very soon, you are going to realize that this woman is a complete, crazy, out of her mind, insane f*cking nutjob. She is crazy. Repeat, this woman is totally insane. I want you to really think about her actions. Those are not normal actions. In fact, they are so far out there that I question why you are even still communicating with such an unstable, immature whore. ST, I am also 24 and my ex is 25. Stop thinking that she is more mature than you, just because of her age. I made the same assumption, always thinking she was so much smarter... when in fact she is CRAZY just like yours. Your Ex is Insane I think I realize that shes more immature and stupidier than me... and I kind of think shes insane!!! but it doesn't really help... I'm not keeping in contact anymore... She doesn't want to be friends anymore... she got the last word by sayin I was scared cause I brought a friend after she basically threatened me and crap... shes really ridiculous... a part of me wants her to fail so bad at that relationship and come running back to me so I can laugh at her... but would I really do that in the end? I'm just really angry and bitter and upset right now and its hard... So now its for NC forever haha... plz express your feelings its nice to hear you guys saying how bad she is and stuff... it helps me realize it too...
JooLee Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 my ex is even more insane. i wanted to get my stuff back and found out that he threw everything away! S-hole!!!
WiseOne1 Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I think I realize that shes more immature and stupidier than me... and I kind of think shes insane!!! but it doesn't really help... I'm not keeping in contact anymore... She doesn't want to be friends anymore... she got the last word by sayin I was scared cause I brought a friend after she basically threatened me and crap... shes really ridiculous... a part of me wants her to fail so bad at that relationship and come running back to me so I can laugh at her... but would I really do that in the end? I'm just really angry and bitter and upset right now and its hard... So now its for NC forever haha... plz express your feelings its nice to hear you guys saying how bad she is and stuff... it helps me realize it too... This woman is crazy!!!!! What did you do? Why are they threatning you? Why does she seem to want harm done to you? You did nothing! And everyone is treating your like your the enemy or the bad one. I would let her get the last word also, shes fking with you for some reason, you really dont deserved to get treated like that. Its the best feeling in the world to have someone come running back to you after the other person has fuc**** them over. But you dun really know if you would take her back if she wanted to come back. But I can almost promise you its gonna fall down, and he'll be gone in the next 2 months. She and her friends seems cowardly, they were so hard when you were alone but when your friend was there they should have tried it then.
Author SweetTux Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 This woman is crazy!!!!! What did you do? Why are they threatning you? Why does she seem to want harm done to you? You did nothing! And everyone is treating your like your the enemy or the bad one. I would let her get the last word also, shes fking with you for some reason, you really dont deserved to get treated like that. Its the best feeling in the world to have someone come running back to you after the other person has fuc**** them over. But you dun really know if you would take her back if she wanted to come back. But I can almost promise you its gonna fall down, and he'll be gone in the next 2 months. She and her friends seems cowardly, they were so hard when you were alone but when your friend was there they should have tried it then. Your right I don't knnow why I'm being targeted and being the bad one... It doesn't make any sense... Just cause I ignored her for a week without giving her stuff back? Its not like I was doing it for no reason... I was just trying to get some of myself back and then trying to be friends but she just wen ridiculous and now I can't go back to anything... I wish you are right WiseOne1 about their relationship falling down in 2 months or so... It really doesn't seem like it will... She seems like the type that just jumps from relationship to relationship and never really looks back anyways... But it would be nice if she realized what she lost and stuff but shes a bitch and doesn't seem like that type of person... She use to be so sweet and nice... Sweetest girl I been with honestly... But the meanest also in the end...
WiseOne1 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Your right I don't knnow why I'm being targeted and being the bad one... It doesn't make any sense... Just cause I ignored her for a week without giving her stuff back? Its not like I was doing it for no reason... I was just trying to get some of myself back and then trying to be friends but she just wen ridiculous and now I can't go back to anything... I wish you are right WiseOne1 about their relationship falling down in 2 months or so... It really doesn't seem like it will... She seems like the type that just jumps from relationship to relationship and never really looks back anyways... But it would be nice if she realized what she lost and stuff but shes a bitch and doesn't seem like that type of person... She use to be so sweet and nice... Sweetest girl I been with honestly... But the meanest also in the end... Lets hope it doesnt end up like my ex from a long time ago, she got a BF after we broke up, and I was waiting for them to break up for another chance.....Then, she got another BF, she bassically got a new BF every month, I feel out of love with her, and when she finnally did want to get back together she was runied goods, she was a virgin when she left and had slept 8 with people when she came back. I told her we could be friends though. But hey anythings possible, just like you didnt see it coming she might do something crazy again. So her and this dude should break up any day now. But you shouldnt wait for it you have to try "TRY" to move on as much as you can, because if you wait around a little and they dont break up, you havent moved up any stages. I know its hard and its easier said than done, but you must try.
Author SweetTux Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 Lets hope it doesnt end up like my ex from a long time ago, she got a BF after we broke up, and I was waiting for them to break up for another chance.....Then, she got another BF, she bassically got a new BF every month, I feel out of love with her, and when she finnally did want to get back together she was runied goods, she was a virgin when she left and had slept 8 with people when she came back. I told her we could be friends though. But hey anythings possible, just like you didnt see it coming she might do something crazy again. So her and this dude should break up any day now. But you shouldnt wait for it you have to try "TRY" to move on as much as you can, because if you wait around a little and they dont break up, you havent moved up any stages. I know its hard and its easier said than done, but you must try. Yes you are right... I'm not going to wait around for her anyways, because I believe that she'll be with him for a while and even after they are done she won't ever come back to me anyways... She thinks I'm psycho because I invested so much time, feelings, and money into her and I was a lil clingy because of how she started acting eventually... But I'm not like that sigh... Some people just know how to push ur buttons and make u miserable at certain times but she also knew how to make me happy at times... Its really hard haha... I'm going to go NC even if she tries to contact me... But I think if she tries to contact me in the near future its only to treat me bad or ask for help... Yes you are right that its hard and easier said than done... But I will try.. Its just hard cause everyone is busy these days with work and their own relationships and such.. I try to keep busy and my mind off of her but it doesn't always work out... Thanks WiseOne1 a lot for replyin to me over and over =) It really helps...
Author SweetTux Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 Update- I thought it was all done and over with... But she just texted me today... It felt like something inside of me just dropped and I was like damn I don't want to read this crap... its gonna be more **** talk or something to ruin my day... I eventually read it and she only wrote "Don't forget to have your mailing address changed." So it wasn't too bad I guess.. But why does she have to even text me such a thing? There was probably only one thing being sent to her place who cares you know? All she has to do is throw it away anyways.. What is she trying to do? Make me text her back or something? I ignored it so far.. I don't think she'll text me again after this last one but thats what I thought yesterday after she sent me a text **** talkin to me... but I dunno... what are your opinions?
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