babes23 Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I've reached the stage where i'm ready to move on, i'm not silly and know that there's no miracle cure for making it all better, i know that it's going to take time. But what helps you along the way? Any coping methods? Tasks? Emotional and Physical methods? Any replies will be appreciated xx
jerbear Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Do your own thing, try things you always wanted to do, continue to go out and do stuff.
Author babes23 Posted August 9, 2008 Author Posted August 9, 2008 Great tip jerbear, some of my tips: * Look after yourself, hair, skin etc, if you look good then you'll feel good. Eating properly after a break up is vital too. * Get closure, look at the relationship for what it really was, one of you wasnt happy, maybe both, that's why the relationship is broken. Learn to let go. * NO CONTACT, this for me is the most important one of all. It gives you chance to heal. * Allow yourself to cry, wallow etc, but then dust yourself off and think positively, think of he/she if needs must but don't do it for too long, distract yourself, "whoosh" them out of your mind. In time you'll be thinking of them less and less....
nopainnogain Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Stay ready and you dont have to get ready. What ever you do dont wallow around your pad . Stay upbeat.
replicator Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Time is all there is for me. So you just need to choose how to spend it. For me, it's self-study to improve myself in my career and work, and running like forest gump outdoors being one with nature and my IPod blasting music.
nowhereman82 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 I found doing cardio at the gym with music going and reading the news on the tv is a good way for me to clear my head and feel physically well afterwards. Oh and of course loveshack Good self therapy even if I am all over the place. Helps reading others, to put things in perspective. The rest just takes time!
Author babes23 Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 * Listening to my ipod * Reading * Planning something, i.e. a holiday
HeatherAngel Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 I am hearing an awful lot of 'get busy, stay busy' - but honestly, this doesn't work for all. Sometimes, the only way PAST something -is through it. You're on the right track, imho. Good for you.
Author babes23 Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 I am hearing an awful lot of 'get busy, stay busy' - but honestly, this doesn't work for all. Sometimes, the only way PAST something -is through it. You're on the right track, imho. Good for you. Yes i agree, i'm not doing anything too busy, i mean reading a book, listening to music is just part of my everyday life anyway. Love that quote "past something, is through it" you're right and at least we're helping ourselves a little along the way eh. Another tip of mine is not to keep sitting by the phone, stop checking for messages etc, switch it off for a few hours or leave it in your bag. I've done that today and it's made me feel that little less anxious.
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