narrowconception Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Hi everyone, I'm new here. I have this friend, we know each other because of some singer a few years back, and we become really good friends. We went to some concerts together, including Il Divo (you'll see why I mention them later), and we tried a lot of things together too. The thing is, these 2 years, she has become this mean person, always pointing fingers at people and saying others is wrong for the smallest things. Of course, I am one of those people who always gets pointed at. Two days ago she suddenly wrote on her MSN "I hate selfish jerks, and there are a lot around me". When I tried to talk to her on MSN she didn't respond to me. I know she was referring me to then. But the thing is, I haven't even talked to her on that day because she asked not to be disturbed during work. The only thing happened that I can think of, is that we were on MSN the night before, and I wanted to go to bed (because I have early class the next day) so I said goodnight and offline. If she is really my friend, I don't think she should loss her temper on such a minor matter, but I think she is, because there is nothing else I can think of. She hates Il Divo now so I seldom talk about them, she loves this supermodel and always talk about him so I let her, what's so selfish about this?! There are so many things that have happened in these 2 years, practically right after Il Divo concert, that made me want to stop being friends with her. It's like she only finds me when she wants something. After the concert (and helping her meeting the guys) she just distanted herself. I want to stop being friends with her, but letting go is so hard, and we have a couple of really good mutual friends. I don't want to bad-mouth her in front of them but I know she will. I'm at a loss of what to do right now, I'm so angry and so sad and so lost at the same time. Hate is such a strong word, but I really think she has my hatred right now. What should I do? How should I think? I really need some advice... it's messing up with my mind, thanks in advance!
SilkLeaves Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Sounds a bit like one of my best friends. Try and limit contact as much as possible - sounds like she needs to learn how not to overreact and that she's not the most important person in the world. Just try and let the friendship die out and get on with your own life. I wouldn't reccomend confrontation but if she needs a good talking to about her high opinion of herself then don't hesitate. She needs a reality check by the sound of it. Maybe once she's learnt that other people have lives that don't involve her she'll grow up.
Author narrowconception Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 Thank you SilkLeaves. I've talked to a few friends and basically I've been told the same thing - she's bad news. Why is it so hard to not to be friends anymore if she's such a b****? She's 31, and delusional. Once she lost her temper and cried because someone (my other friend) jokingly said I look better with one of the Il Divo man, the one she loves most. She went around her workplace telling her colleagues that that divo man is her boyfriend and showed everyone their picture together. I guess having someone this delusive is bad for me. But as you grow up, it's harder to make new friends, so the circle becomes even smaller. and she was a big part of my life. Anyway, thank you for your suggestion, it's time to move on to things that matter to me and people who care about me, like family and other friends.
foreverlove06 Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 It doesnt sound like a healthy friendship... I would really try to just let it go. Dont force yourself to talk to her...dont go out of your way to talk to her. Just let the friendship kinda dissolve. But still be friendly & whatnot, dont completely ignore her either..Dont bad mouth her, particularly since you said you share some friends. It will just make everything messier & create drama. Oh & maybe you should try talking to her first about why you are upset...? Good luck.
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