Vero1244 Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Dear Loveshack users, I come to you seeking advice. In a day or two I am going to be meeting up with a guy who is adorable. The catch is that he is going off to college soon. At the very least we will just hook up and at the most will be in a relationship. Now I'm not going to become obsessed on making us workout but I want to know some dos and dont. What do you guys want in a girl? What makes her worth keeping? I assume the answers are different for every guy but perhaps I could get some basics. Thank you.
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I hate to say it, but there probably isn't a whole lot you can plan to do in order to make yourself a 'keeper' in this case. Usually someone is titled a keeper after they've been dating for a while and there's proven chemistry. In the short time you two have before he leaves for college, there isn't enough time to establish that. At this point, if you two do survive it'll be on one of two factors. a) he thinks you're hot, or b) you happened to say or do something that connected with him. Do your homework, find out if you two share any common interests and play on them. Other than that, as clichéd as it sounds, all you can do is be yourself. As to what I'd look for in a keeper, looks don't rank highly at all. I already know that I find the girl attractive, otherwise I probably wouldn't have approached her in the first place. But for longevity, it's attitude. Here's a brief rundown of what I look for in a keeper: Must accept that I ride a motorbike and have no intention of giving it up for a girl. This may sound minor, but it has proven to be quite a major point of contention.A level of independence. I want a girl who wants me, not one who needs me. ...if that makes any sense.Assertion without dominance. I don't want a girl who expects me to make all of her decisions for her. In that same vein, she'd better not think that she's going to be making all of my decisions, either. I'll walk at the first sign of a boss.Ambition: if a girl has no ambitions in life, or isn't showing any signs of working towards any of them (i.e. if she whines about her job and her weight, but won't look through the classifieds or hit the gym), then she'll lose my interest quickly. I don't care if she doesn't want to be the first female president or cure cancer, but just have something in life to aim for!Don't be preachy or try and 'fix' all of my 'faults'.And of course...chemistry. How well do we get along? Do I find myself so comfortable around her that I ramble on about my deepest darkest secrets for ten minutes straight before seeing her smiling and realizing what I've just done? And is she smiling because she is happy that I'm so comfortable around her, and she genuinely likes hearing me talk? I don't know if that's a lot to ask for or not, but as far as I know, those are the main things a girl needs in order to have a lasting relation with me. Of course, most of those things are traits that are discovered over time.
loveinlife Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I think you should find a guy who would love you for who you are, without changing yourself. All we could do is give you advice. The best thing is to ensure the guy will be there for you no matter what and have trust. just my 2 cents. good luck buttercup! =)
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