sptu Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 hi to everyone and thanks in advance for reading my post!well, i am a 22 years old girl from Europe and i found out that i am in love with a very good friend of mine...i told him so, and he said that he has feelings for me as well. then, we just started flirting each other as he had a girlfriend. he broke up with her, because as he said he couldnt be in that relationship anymore, and to make a big story sort, we started meeting each other...after a while, he disappeared... i was very upset as i was calling him and he wasnt even answer the phone. anyway, after some weeks he asked me sorry and he said that he was afraid because everything happened very quickly and he is a very stressful period. i said okay, and we started again! well, yesterday i called him and he didnt answer, nor callled me back. the whoooole day!and today i woke up very angry and as i thought that he disappeared again, i made a huge scene. he said that i should know that he has bad rapport with his mobile phone which is very true but now, the fact is that i made a huge scene, and he is very cold with me....i am not crazy but the first time that he disappeared i couldnt believe it and therefore now i cant trust him..how can i make him warm again?!and moreover, how can i make up for this?!?!let me also say that he is on the army(in my country its compulsive) , he is also working and he has no free time...
xpaperxcutx Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 You want to be his first priority, but he's put you in second place. Maybe not even 2nd, maybe even 3rd or 4th. From his behaviour he seems to be doing the disappearing act alot, and since you don't seem to trust him, you need distance yourself from him. Which means stop calling him. If he can't treat you with a bit of respect, then you shouldn't put him on a pedestal and expect him to reciprocate in the same way.
Author sptu Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 well i would have done that but i love him very much as we were good friends for years but now i want him and stop speaking with him it would be very upset for me..
torranceshipman Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Stop dating him...he obviously doesn't see you as a priority in his life and is not that into you - sounds like you are a bit of a back up choice to him. You can do better than that and you need a guy that does really value you. And don't say 'but I love him' as that is irrelevant: point is, he doesn't feel the same way you do, so you need to move on.
JoeNewbie Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Someone who is interested always has free time. If they are too busy, they are simply not that interested. If he backs off, you have to back way off, no matter how difficult that may be.
Author sptu Posted August 10, 2008 Author Posted August 10, 2008 firstly thanks for your help!!!unfortunately i am stupid enough, and i count very much on the fact that when we meet he is very nice, and it seems that he wants me more that i do. moreover, i can remember even when we were friends having this problem with his mobile.. i dont know how to handle it as if it wasnt that, it would have been just perfect!sorry for my english its not my native language
Author sptu Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 its so stressful this period for me :-(
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