cutegirl Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Imagine you have a friend you have known for 10 plus years, you are pretty close etc and you hang out often, numerous times a week. It's just that sometimes when members of the opposite sex calls this friend, she will just go off somewhere else in my house and talk to them for like 20-30 min. And she is always receiving texts and texting back. Does this bug you? My friend claims its not rude at all. She told me most people wouldn't consider it rude either. She says we have known each other for a long time so there's no need for such formalities. She also says that she can't help it that she is sociable and a lot of people call/text her. Do you get annoyed if a friend that you associate quite often with (such as every other day) will go on the phone and talk to other people when they are with you? My friend says she won't stop btw. She can't help it all these people call her and she likes talking to them.
Lyssa Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 No matter how long we have been friends, I would still find that rude. There was a friend of mine - it happened when I just lost my mother. She came to keep me company but was on the phone with her BF throughout the whole afternoon (totally ignored my father as well) until it was time for the guests to arrive. I got over it but then came other things that she did hence the 'was a friend'. Maybe to other people, it's okay to do that - go off somewhere and spend time talking over the phone with other people etc... but it doesn't work that way with me. I'd never do that to my friends - it's rude.
Author cutegirl Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 No matter how long we have been friends, I would still find that rude. There was a friend of mine - it happened when I just lost my mother. She came to keep me company but was on the phone with her BF throughout the whole afternoon (totally ignored my father as well) until it was time for the guests to arrive. I got over it but then came other things that she did hence the 'was a friend'. Maybe to other people, it's okay to do that - go off somewhere and spend time talking over the phone with other people etc... but it doesn't work that way with me. I'd never do that to my friends - it's rude. I think it's rude too. There as a period around last week though where she was at my house around 3 days in a row, she would pop in after work and stay for a few hours. I guess she was spending most of her time here so she couldn't help it and had to talk as well. But the thing is that she was also doing it when we were seeing each other once or twice a week. She just can't help it, one time she thought she lost her phone and was frantic (the woman is 31 btw, not a teenager). Now that she is dating these guys they are constantly calling and texting ALL DAY and she will go off and talk to them for around 20-30 min. She thinks I am possessive and "territorial" for being annoyed. She claims that if she came over to my house and if a guy called me and I talked to him for 30 minutes she wouldn't care at all. The thing is that I'm not really sociable and don't feel like talking to any guys so I can't really do it back to give her a taste of her own medicine. There was a time when we were walking on the beach for exercise and she would stop ever single time someone called to talk because she said she is "too tired to walk and talk/text" at the same time, so I just walked ahead without her and had to wait for her at the end. And if I get annoyed she says that she isn't doing anything wrong by having a social life, she's busy and a lot of people want to reach her...
LolitaAnastasia Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Reminds me of when I visited a friend that I had known for five years. I hadn't seen her for two years so I was pretty excited in seeing and spending time with her. When I got there the first night was awesome. The next day we were going to go to a concert which was in the city, so we hoped on the train. When we got to the concert, I noticed my toe was throbbing (found out later someone stood on it and broken the skin underneath) and I was getting a headache. After the concert, I thought we were going to catch the train back, instead she dragged me around the city, giving me nasty comments on walking slow and that it would be my "fault" if she missed going to this clothing shop. I was in pain and I couldn't handle being in the shop. Later on she admited that the only reason she asked me to come down was to actually go to this shop not to really go to the concert. I thought the night wouldn't be bad by the time we got back. Instead she txted one of her pals to go nightclubbing with us. I was properly upset. Because I came to see and spend time with her, not her and her friend. Remember I hadn't seen her for two years. When the chick came over, my friend was flustered and busy in the bathroom putting make up on with her friend, I already did mine so I was txting my pal back home. When we got to the club we stayed for an hour and half, and in that time my friend wondered off with her friend so I was stuck on my own. I felt like I was an idiot dancing with myself. My friend did eventually come back but she danced with me for five minutes and then said "Let's go back to my flat, my pal is tired so lets go." I was speechless. She led me under false situations. I thought: We would spend time together and see a great concert.That we would go nightclubbing just her and I.Instead She wanted me to go with her to a shop.She invited a friend that she can see when she wants and spent most of her time with her friend at the nightclub instead of me.So I understand where your coming from. But 31 acting like that is very sad.
SimpleGirl. Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Imagine you have a friend you have known for 10 plus years, you are pretty close etc and you hang out often, numerous times a week. It's just that sometimes when members of the opposite sex calls this friend, she will just go off somewhere else in my house and talk to them for like 20-30 min. And she is always receiving texts and texting back. Does this bug you? My friend claims its not rude at all. She told me most people wouldn't consider it rude either. She says we have known each other for a long time so there's no need for such formalities. She also says that she can't help it that she is sociable and a lot of people call/text her. Do you get annoyed if a friend that you associate quite often with (such as every other day) will go on the phone and talk to other people when they are with you? My friend says she won't stop btw. She can't help it all these people call her and she likes talking to them. Maybe to other people, it's okay to do that - go off somewhere and spend time talking over the phone with other people etc... but it doesn't work that way with me. I'd never do that to my friends - it's rude. I can relate to you here. I do find it rude too. It's like "Well, whats the point in hanging around with me, when your going to be stuck to that phone of yours practically all day?" Yes, she can't help how popular she is and therefore, very social but i mean, 20 and 30 minute conversations? Fair enough if it was a quick hello. I would and have done found it annoying, so your not the only one! It's got nothing to do with the length of time you have known her - it's just basic manners. Chin up! SimpleGirl*
Lyssa Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 She thinks I am possessive and "territorial" for being annoyed. She claims that if she came over to my house and if a guy called me and I talked to him for 30 minutes she wouldn't care at all. The thing is that I'm not really sociable and don't feel like talking to any guys so I can't really do it back to give her a taste of her own medicine. Of course she would be okay with it - she is like that after all. If she was a good friend in other area then maybe you can let this behaviour go but it would be quite hard to do so cause it is plain rude to ignore the host (when she's at your place).
foreverlove06 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 This sounds just like my bestfriend!........ It pisses me off every single time she does it! But you know what gives me satisfaction, even though its silly? Texting/calling whoever I want, whenever i want, even when we are hanging out.. Because for a while i would go out of my way to not text/call anyone during our "quality time". But i reached a point where i figured..well if her calls are so important, why should i put mine on hold?
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