Jilly Bean Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 You don't know this other woman yet you HATE her and are so jealous. ALL your anger IS mis-directed! It also shows that you think you're better than her. Obviously this woman had some problems in her life, like everyone but it seems she's OK, I mean she has family, kids, grandchildren - And she IS secure, hense HER choice to have sex with him. MANY people have sex on the first date, or first time meeting, that doesn't make her a slut or him a slut. The real issue is, your bf isnt' inlove with you and you're upset that he has feelings for this other woman, which makes you think you're better than her because her life may not be on the same page as yours. You're completely out of line telling him all this stuff, no wonder he doesn't want to kiss you. His past and what he has done in the past is NONE of your business. Totally, totally agree. All of your venom towards her is because you know he is with you ONLY by default of her breaking up with him. You know you are second fiddle, and are upset because you think you are better than her. Apparently not so. This anger is SO unbecoming, and I am sure that your bf finds it tasteless, too. I think he doesn't kiss you because he doesn't care enough to. Like I said earlier, hookers don't kiss their johns, because they believe kissing is far more intimate than screwing. I think your bf doesn't care enough about you to kiss you, honestly.
Author LolitaAnastasia Posted August 11, 2008 Author Posted August 11, 2008 Totally, totally agree. All of your venom towards her is because you know he is with you ONLY by default of her breaking up with him. You know you are second fiddle, and are upset because you think you are better than her. Apparently not so. This anger is SO unbecoming, and I am sure that your bf finds it tasteless, too. I think he doesn't kiss you because he doesn't care enough to. Like I said earlier, hookers don't kiss their johns, because they believe kissing is far more intimate than screwing. I think your bf doesn't care enough about you to kiss you, honestly. Hey Jilly maybe your right. I don't want to confront him with the issue, but I should bring it up, minus my anger and envy of GW that I will keep to myself. It's kind of hard to think that I'm second fiddle. I consider myself a good person, I have gain so much and proved to others that think of me in a condesending that I'm intelligent and I'm useful. It just is terrible to think two and a half years of having feelings for someone, "chasing" them and making myself believe that after that long he is finally my boyfriend and yet know that in the back of my mind I am second fiddle. I knew that I wasn't being picked cause he suddenly felt guilty for bragging about his relationship with GW and then she dumping him. If he isn't my boyfriend then why does he keep refering to himself as my boyfriend? I dont know it confuses me. It really makes me think. Maybe I should sit and brainstorm this relationship.
Jilly Bean Posted August 11, 2008 Posted August 11, 2008 See, that's the thing, L. You've been living the fantasy of being with him for years, and now that he is somewhat in your life, you bring all your dreams to the reality, and that is perhaps clouding things. And L, don't be anyone's second fiddle. Go find someone who will make you his number one, so you don't have to feel like you're competing with the ghost of his ex. That's a crappy feeling for anyone, and really a battle one can never, ever win.
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