confused and broken Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I saw my ex in front of the coffee shop we always used to hang out at... I drive by there every day and have never seen him there before I slowed down turned onto the next street grabbed my cell phone called my best friend parked my car and started walking that way.... My heart was pounding and I was shaking... My best friend told me to get back in my car and drive home And I did But since then (that was yesterday) all I have wanted to do is text him saying "i saw you...." Anyways I haven't yet And I know I shouldn't but WHY??? Why did this happen?
Peter_pan Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 it happens because you live in the same place... of course u want to txt him, you miss him. its normal. thinking about this, i wish my ex could see me but i couldnt see them. maybe that would get her txting me?
Author confused and broken Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 it happens because you live in the same place... of course u want to txt him, you miss him. its normal. thinking about this, i wish my ex could see me but i couldnt see them. maybe that would get her txting me? Do you think I should text him??
replicator Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I guess you should ask yourself what it would achieve.. What difference would it make. For me. I've been missing my ex like crazy lately too.. Everything seems to remind me of her, and I still love her after all the pain she caused me. Still sometimes really think I lost the best thing that ever happened to me. That I somehow let it slip away. Don't know what I would do if I saw her. I'm a different person now.
Author confused and broken Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 I guess you should ask yourself what it would achieve.. What difference would it make. For me. I've been missing my ex like crazy lately too.. Everything seems to remind me of her, and I still love her after all the pain she caused me. Still sometimes really think I lost the best thing that ever happened to me. That I somehow let it slip away. Don't know what I would do if I saw her. I'm a different person now. Seriously chances of ever seeing him were slim to none.... What would it achieve? instant gratification and then maybe nothing or back to something nothing great but nothing great almost seems better than nothing at all at this point
replicator Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Instant gratification will turn to anxiety as you wait for a reply... Unless you receive the kind of response you want, I think you'll only be hurt.. Well, that is how I would be. I know how difficult it is to let go of someone you had strong feelings for. Every piece of you just want to somehow reach out.. To remind them that you exist. Blah... Hang in there.
Author confused and broken Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 Instant gratification will turn to anxiety as you wait for a reply... Unless you receive the kind of response you want, I think you'll only be hurt.. Well, that is how I would be. I know how difficult it is to let go of someone you had strong feelings for. Every piece of you just want to somehow reach out.. To remind them that you exist. Blah... Hang in there.[/quote F&*k I feel like I will be doing this forever.......... Ahhhhhhh I was actually doing somewhat ok Thats it exactly I just want to remind him that I exist
replicator Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 F&*k I feel like I will be doing this forever.......... Ahhhhhhh I was actually doing somewhat ok Thats it exactly I just want to remind him that I exist I know.. I feel the same way.. I sometimes wonder if I will ever be able to move on. If I'll ever be able to trust someone, and take that chance. I was doing better all this time, but it catches up to me. You can only trust in the process, and believe that in time, we're going to be ok. Perhaps life won't be the same, but nothing says we can't be happy again and feel complete without our ex's. Feel what you have to feel. Let it out. Just remember to not let yourself dwell there too long. Now is the time to find that inner strength you have within you, and to become a better person. Make the best with what you have in front of you, and don't let this hold you back.
Author confused and broken Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 I know.. I feel the same way.. I sometimes wonder if I will ever be able to move on. If I'll ever be able to trust someone, and take that chance. I was doing better all this time, but it catches up to me. You can only trust in the process, and believe that in time, we're going to be ok. Perhaps life won't be the same, but nothing says we can't be happy again and feel complete without our ex's. Feel what you have to feel. Let it out. Just remember to not let yourself dwell there too long. Now is the time to find that inner strength you have within you, and to become a better person. Make the best with what you have in front of you, and don't let this hold you back. What I hate the most about everything that has happened is that I am so jaded now...I have basically lost all faith... like part of me is dead and I have given up I don't want this too hold me back I want my faith back I want to be that playful person again I want to heal and move on and believe You're right I do need to make the best of what I have in front of me
replicator Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 We all have set backs, so don't feel too badly. I think each time, you're letting go a little bit more. Eventually, you'll be free of it. It just reminds you that you're human, and a good one at that.. One that can love, and one that can hurt. Loving and losing are a part of life, and I believe there is a lesson to be learned from it all. Smile knowing that you got to experience both, and keep hope that you'll find something even better. Things can only get better from here on.
Chinook Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Just because you saw the guy on the street... you want to go back to the coffee shop but had to be told by a friend to get in the car and drive home. So then you want to text him to say 'I saw you'. Can you please be mindful how this behaviour is and would appear to be borderline stalkery type behaviour. Yes, you miss him. Yes you wish things were different. But they're not different and you need to ensure you see things clearly for what they are. Sending him a text to say 'I saw you' would achieve precisely nothing. In fact, it may actually make him freak out and trust me, you really don't want that to happen. Just let it rest.
Crazy.S Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I don't think thats "stalkery type". She just saw him and her feelings came back. I think it would be the same for me. She was just using her friend to remind her what she should not be doing.
Chinook Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 That's not how an ex would feel, if they received a text message saying 'I saw you'. My first thought would be, 'oh, so he's watching me now'... I didn't say that's what she was doing, I said that's how it can be perceived.
Author confused and broken Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 I don't think thats "stalkery type". She just saw him and her feelings came back. I think it would be the same for me. She was just using her friend to remind her what she should not be doing. I seriously wasn't expecting him to be there... You're exactly right I called my friend because I knew she would give me 100 reasons to keep the NC up and go on with my life... But she didn't she just told me to go home and that was enough that was what I wanted to hear and do it was just hard he might have though I was a little wacked if I had gone over there I don't know I'm glad I didn't I'm not going to text him but its hard I just want to remind him that I exist as replicator was saying earlier
Crazy.S Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I am fortunate enough to be far away from my ex. We were in a long distance relationship, about 80 miles apart. But we spent our college years together in Boston. I can't imagine living in the same city as her. Imagine if I saw her with her new bf at our favorite spots?
0hpenelope Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Yikes. I would've run like mad in the opposite direction. I'd rather be seen as the crazy girl running in the streets for no apparent reason. Good for you for not sending that text. He knows you exist.
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