Grace112 Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I know it isn't a p.c. term however as I'm sitting here at work trying to finish up for the day, all I can think about is how if I called my ex to say "you know I still love you", I'd be considered "crazy" by all his friends, family, and heck even all my friends and family. Something I used to say, without the word "still" of course, so often and without second guessing - now if I uttered the phrase - people would think that there was something seriously wrong with me. Funny the things that steer you back to the reality of the situation. Alright, back to work.
ioncebelieved Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I know it isn't a p.c. term however as I'm sitting here at work trying to finish up for the day, all I can think about is how if I called my ex to say "you know I still love you", I'd be considered "crazy" by all his friends, family, and heck even all my friends and family. Something I used to say, without the word "still" of course, so often and without second guessing - now if I uttered the phrase - people would think that there was something seriously wrong with me. Funny the things that steer you back to the reality of the situation. Alright, back to work. I thought about doing the same thing, but why bother? I have been NC for almost 6 weeks and she has made no effort in contacting me. Makes me feel like she has forgotten me. Then I think, "I was great to her in every way from sex to doing things with her and just how I treated her." Then I snap out of it a know in my broken heart and trashed mind that she WILL NEVER stop missing me and thinking of what she had in me. Of course I think if she wanted she would contact me and that would be the only way I would ever speak to her again!! Yeah, if she came back I would allow it, but she would have to work like there is NO TOMORROW in showing me with actions and NOT words.
orangehose Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I know it isn't a p.c. term however as I'm sitting here at work trying to finish up for the day, all I can think about is how if I called my ex to say "you know I still love you", I'd be considered "crazy" by all his friends, family, and heck even all my friends and family. Something I used to say, without the word "still" of course, so often and without second guessing - now if I uttered the phrase - people would think that there was something seriously wrong with me. Funny the things that steer you back to the reality of the situation. Alright, back to work. Ha, yeah, I was talking to my dad the other day after another 'down' phase of a couple days, and he said that if I still felt sad about my ex (got dumped / went NC 3-4 months ago), I was an idiot. I've been hard on myself, too, for not yet being 'over' things - my pathway to recovery has been anything but linear, NC though I remain. But that's the nature of the healing process - can't know for sure when it'll be over, until it's over.
Chinook Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 can't know for sure when it'll be over, until it's over.More accurately... you won't care Because... you will have moved on to other things/people.
Peter_pan Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Ha, yeah, I was talking to my dad the other day after another 'down' phase of a couple days, and he said that if I still felt sad about my ex (got dumped / went NC 3-4 months ago), I was an idiot. I've been hard on myself, too, for not yet being 'over' things - my pathway to recovery has been anything but linear, NC though I remain. But that's the nature of the healing process - can't know for sure when it'll be over, until it's over. why would you be an idiot? because ur not over him? dont people around here feel, if you have gone 4-5-6 months of nc and your still not over them that maybe you should contact them?
wareagle Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Yea I'm afraid to tell anyone that I still love my ex, for the fear of them telling me that I'm a fool! At least the ones who know my situation and know how she treated me! It will be 5 months NC on my part in 3 day's, I know she still thinks about me cause she's still hitting up my myspace page at least 2 times a day! Whether she still cares or not or just does it out of curiosity is beyond me, but it does make me wonder?
Peter_pan Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 sounds like she is curious. and keeping an eye on you. i would only break nc with the ex if i had a new gf. so i have some ammo if need be. i really dont think i should have to break no contact. she has had golden opportunities to speak to me but choose not to. i think its out of fear that i will mention him and she will be very uncomfortable.
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