clarissa526 Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Hello my name is Clarissa.I'm new to this site ,and this will be my first post.Okay well here go's.I just recently got out of a 3 year relationship.It's been only 3 months since my ex and i call it qiutes.I'm very happy with the split between my ex and i ,because we were not meant to be together.I recently ran in to my first love from high school,and we have been spending some time together.Now my question is !Is it wrong for me to move on so quickly ,after only three month's of being single.I don't want to sound like an insensitive person,but i really suffer in my previouse relationship.So i guess now that i'm not in that relationship, i'm a happier person.I really didn't even suffer a heart ack or any bitter feelings.You know ,like when you break-up with someone you care for alot ,and it feels like the end of the world.Okay ,well i didn't go thur that in my last break-up.But now that my high school sweet heart is around,he want's us to pick -up where we left off.And i feel like it just to soon for me. I feel wierd ,because i feel like i should be suffering ,over the lost of a 3yrs relationship.But i'm not.So i just want to know what you all think.Thanx alot for all you help.
sultry33 Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I think everyone is different in how they feel/cope every rs is different and if you was unhappy then thats prob why your ok with it ending. you need to ask yourself why the 1st love one broke up and if there are good enough reasons to start it again.. only you know how you feel and if your ready.. go for it i hope it works out for you and welcome x
Crestfallen_KH Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 You might have already shut down a little bit while you were still IN the relationship and started the grieving process before it even ended. It's not uncommon for people to begin detaching when they know it's over months before the relationship actually ends. I'm guessing the end was either mutual or that you ended it? If it's too soon to start a new relationship because you are still grieving, that's one thing. But if are feeling like you SHOULD be feeling as though you are grieving (but you aren't) don't beat yourself up for what you think you SHOULD be doing - i.e., don't let it drive your decision-making process. There is a possibility, too, that you are still in the process and a new relationship will bring out those issues that you still need to work on, so be conscious of that as well. Three years is a long time, and it's likely there are still at least some triggers that are still present. Good luck and welcome to LS!
Peter_pan Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 good advice already given, so im going to say yeh go for it. only if you feel you dont need to work on you at all. my ex moved on after 3 weeks so 3 months is fine if you ask me
Trialbyfire Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Don't feel guilty. If you're able to move on after 3 months, consider yourself one of the lucky ones. Look to the factors that forced you apart from your first love and ensure those issues are no longer present. Otherwise, you're going to find yourselves repeating the same mistakes you made the first time around. As they say, the definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over again. Good luck!
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