kizik Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 In breaking NC, it can be a valuable reality check because more often than not, what the member wants/expects/hopes for, doesn't happen and also, the rosy glow disappears after the negative or value zero interaction. True. O.H., I broke NC about 2 months back, telling her congrats on moving and that I wished her well. Now I regret having been such a pussy, but I don't regret having gotten that superficial response-- "Hi! I'm starting work tomorrow, wish it wasn't so soon, but what can you do? Hope you're well!" -- because it hurt, and through said hurt my resolve to not contact -- like TBF said -- was strengthened. So in my case, I don't regret contact, but the big pussy I was in what I said. However, I was testing the waters, as at that time I was concerned with what she thought of me. Nowadays I couldn't give a f*ck. Funny huh?
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 True. O.H., I broke NC about 2 months back, telling her congrats on moving and that I wished her well. Now I regret having been such a pussy, but I don't regret having gotten that superficial response-- "Hi! I'm starting work tomorrow, wish it wasn't so soon, but what can you do? Hope you're well!" -- because it hurt, and through said hurt my resolve to not contact -- like TBF said -- was strengthened. So in my case, I don't regret contact, but the big pussy I was in what I said. However, I was testing the waters, as at that time I was concerned with what she thought of me. Nowadays I couldn't give a f*ck. Funny huh? You've come a long way kizik! An accomplishment to be happy with. Well done!
kizik Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Thanks TBF, I appreciate that. Though, I don't feel like I've come a long way. Perhaps it's easier for users such as yourself, who have "known" me since I joined, to see the changes I've made. I do agree with your "theory" that everyone should break NC just once, just to see how it feels and to know what it does to them.
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