DLFresh Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Hello and thank you for your repsonses in advance - Here is my situation - I having been seeing this girl for about 3 months now and the relationship has been great - we ge along wonderfully and are in an eclusive relationship - We don't say the "L" word because we are taking it day by day, don't want to take it toooo fast, but from what we say to each other and our actions, it is obvious how into each other we are - it just seems really good for both of us - Here is my concern...she hs mentioned moving out of state if a job opportunity came up because there is a city she has always wanted to live in - she doesn't shove it my face and she has also said things to the extent of "I usually change things up living wise about every 3 years, but I also haven't been in a relationship for that long" I guess to let me know that a relationship would (or might) play a part in her decision making - A friend of hers last night though mentioned the city and and she was like "I have to move there" - which, made me a bit uncomfotable - I did not say anything though - Obviously, I don't want to get super involved with someone who is going to move away (me moving with her within the next couple of years is just not an option due to my career) but she is so awesome and we get along great and we met in the city we reside in now- I could see us definitley taking it to the next level - I just don't want to waste time on the wrong peson - also I am 10 years older than her so I may be a bit more ready to settle down with the right person - My question is...should I just take it day by day and see what happens and cross that bridge if or when it occurs or should I talk to her about it? I don't want her to feel like I am giving her an ultimatum or painting her into a corner and i don't want to come inbetween someone and their dream, even if it costs us our relationship....and our relationship is still new Any thoughts on how I should handle this? Am I over-reacting or expecting too much out of this new relationship, even if it seems perfect? Sorry this is long winded, but some advice would be greatly appreciated!!!!
Lucky_One Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 You're borrowing trouble, man. You are barely in a R, and you are worrying about what will happen years down the road? Just take it easy and enjoy it!
Ashbash11 Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I am actually in the exact position that you are right in now, except my BF and I have been going out for about 6 months. My boyfriend and I also met in the same city and he just finished his Masters degree so now he's thinking of moving to another state or possibly country to find a job.. I know the feeling you are describing: You're enjoying her company, but you're afraid to get too emotionally involved because you know that eventually, she's leaving. It's a tough situation, and I sympathize. I've thought a lot about this and my final decision with my BF was just to enjoy the time we have together and not think about the future. I am a believer that things will work out if you are a good match and you both feel strongly for each other. Plus, in your case, its such a new relationship... you can't even be sure that things would last even if she DID stay in the same city. Just take it one day at a time and worry about the future when the time comes. That's what I'm doing and I think it's the way to keep yourself sane.. Otherwise, you will make it harder on yourself by trying not to get attached.... It's bound to happen, so just let it.
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