MayraPelayo Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I am a 25 year old Single mother that is having trouble with coping on breaking up with a depressed man. He has put me through hell and back telling me he is going to kill himself, now on multiple occasions I have tried to seek help for him and I, At one point things were going smoothly he was on Zoloft but then got off the meds. After this it has always been an emotional rollercoaster that I am tired and drained of putting up with.. Now I know that the decision I made well we both made of breaking up is best for me.. As for him he has told me that he can't live without me. I loved him and still kinda do A LOT!!! But I just don't know how to deal with him. Now I know I have to focus more on myself and daughter and get back into the swing of things but I am having trouble motivating myself to do everything. I don't find joy in a lot of things that I did at one point of my life. I have constant headaches and I just want this nightmare to end. There is a huge part of me that still waits for him to call me and he does everyday whether it is just to show me he called who knows. I am very upset. Any words of advice from anyone would help. Thanks for taking time out to read my post have a blessed day! Mayra
kizik Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 As much as it hurts to cut him off, and as much as you are concerned for his wellbeing (both mental and physical) - you need to go complete No Contact with this guy. You said yourself he has put you through hell. You don't owe him anything and yes, you need to focus on regaining your sanity.
Author MayraPelayo Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 Well today will be day one for no contact with this person. I will be updating and hopefully be able to move on successfully from this situation. I just love him so dam much man... I would ask why because this isn't the first time I have ever tried to leave but he would always threaten me or himself and I would go back.. It kills me to think that he is out there feeling this way and I am no longer there to be a help.
critter909 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I am dealing with a breakup with an alcoholic. I have tried to help him in infinite ways for 2 years. Everyone tells me I have to let him go. If he is unwilling to deal with his problem there is nothing I can do. I love him more than anything, my heart breaks thinking of him, but it's true, there is nothing I can do. I think you are in the same position now. He needs to pick himself up, there is no hope for a relationship with him until he does so. If you are truly worried about his health/safety is there someone in his family or a trusted friend you could tell? That's what I did and it took some of the pressure off.
Author MayraPelayo Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 I have but he lied to his sister and told her he was feeling down only... I have tried so much I mean I made him my priority but the reality of the situation I always always ended up getting hurt. This has happened a lot where he would talk **** and end up apologizing for after but I don't want to deal with it any longer.... I need to make no Contact with him and like i said this is only day one... I will be posting how I feel on the daily. Thanks for reading my post!
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