leftyright1 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 i can't get them out of my head - all the times she looked at me w/ so much love. and then all the times i had other things happening and couldn't give everything of myself. i have so much hatred towards myself right now. i feel like i let her slip through my fingers. now i can't even get her to return 1 phone call. a break up is one thing, but never being able to forgive yourself is another. i know i wasn't a horrible boyfriend, but i could have done so much more. its just agonizing.
Ronni_W Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Self-forgiveness IS tough to come by. Possibly the first step is to just allow that you may, some day, achieve it (instead of using "never" -- that is just so final a word, not too hopeful or inspiring of anything better.) Do you have anything about yourself that you DON'T hate? -- or even actually LIKE? It could be a physical attribute, mental characteristic, or emotional quality. If there is something, perhaps you can 'back-door' your way into some self-liking...and allow it grow from there?
miamimike Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Just always remember it takes two people to break up- meaning that there were probably things she did wrong too. If you acted a certain way or made mistakes in your mind, what was the reasoning behind it, honestly? Maybe she did something you didn't like and that's why you didn't "give everything." It's hard right now because all you can remember are good things, but the best thing to do is not beat yourself up over something you can't change. Good luck!
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