vonerik012 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 This is typical for men on a dating site... One woman emailed me, and wanted to meet. We talked, and I told her I am not very interested because she has children. She still emailed me, and suggested we go out anyway. She was attractive. I said no again. I told her it wouldn't go much past sex for me, as i dont want to date a single mom. She then told me she already has a lover, but is looking for more, and told me that she has all the sex she wants already. So, why would i want to take this woman out? The above scenario is not that uncommon. Many women just withhold information.
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I don't know how often it works, to be honest. I have had, and do, plenty of gf's who do OLD. And none of them were on there looking for booty. Even if a guy was a tool about asking for it. Just seems to create a lot more frustration. I think for guys online looking for sex, it's a lot easier to send a few emails, than it is to get dressed and go sit in a bar, right? But there are men online who are not all looking for sex. On the site the guy wrote me this on, his was the first to write me something like that. All the others (this time!) have been very much gentleman. maybe the chicks i talk to are all lying to me, but i swear i must get emails from at least 2 or 3 new women (ones i havenet previously spoken too) every week and they all say the same thing. they say that the guys on there say some of the weirdest and most foul things. i think acting like that does work for some guys. chicks always act like they are too good for that stuff, but they want it just as much as guys and most times even more. Lets get real
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 Women he deems average looking should just expect sex, and not an ongoing romantic relationship. Women he considers hot (or keepers) can enjoy the possibility of an ongoing romantic relationship. Implied message: both sets of women should consider themselves lucky. LOL!!!! Yes, I got that feeling from his profile as well. He is a gift. And both sets should not have any expectations, as he has already discussed his "out".
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 This is typical for men on a dating site... One woman emailed me, and wanted to meet. We talked, and I told her I am not very interested because she has children. She still emailed me, and suggested we go out anyway. She was attractive. I said no again. I told her it wouldn't go much past sex for me, as i dont want to date a single mom. She then told me she already has a lover, but is looking for more, and told me that she has all the sex she wants already. So, why would i want to take this woman out? The above scenario is not that uncommon. Many women just withhold information. the funny thing is i totally believe this story. they withold information but will call a man a liar and all other types of names if in the end all he wanted was sex. women...
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 maybe the chicks i talk to are all lying to me, but i swear i must get emails from at least 2 or 3 new women (ones i havenet previously spoken too) every week and they all say the same thing. they say that the guys on there say some of the weirdest and most foul things. i think acting like that does work for some guys. chicks always act like they are too good for that stuff, but they want it just as much as guys and most times even more. Lets get real I think it depends on the site, too. Plenty of fish is all so low-class. Guys on there are gross. Match is a bit better. And on eharmony, you don't have a lot of opportunity to be a pig. You're right - I am sure many women will respond to his approach. Just not this one...
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 What happens if he doesn't want a relationship OR sex?? huh? then what does he want? is he just simply looking for an opportunity to spend all of his money on a nice looking women, then simply drop her off back at home?
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 What happens if he doesn't want a relationship OR sex?? So you mean just casual companionship/dating?
audrey_1 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 LOL again! They will have nice cleavege shots or sexy poses then call a guy a perve if they comment on it... what is up with that? huh? then what does he want? is he just simply looking for an opportunity to spend all of his money on a nice looking women, then simply drop her off back at home? That's why I'm asking. I ran into this situation with OLD once. It shocked me, since we spent A LOT of time chatting online and exchanged many images. After all that, we only had one date IRL, and we had a blast. Bizarre.
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I think it depends on the site, too. Plenty of fish is all so low-class. Guys on there are gross. Match is a bit better. And on eharmony, you don't have a lot of opportunity to be a pig. You're right - I am sure many women will respond to his approach. Just not this one... wow. i like plenty of fish - why are you shooting down my site? match is ok, but i hate paying for it - that's tantamaunt to prostitution (maybe). i think i like plenty of fish because there are so many low class guys, that i look like a hero.
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 That's why I'm asking. I ran into this situation with OLD once. It shocked me, since we spent A LOT of time chatting online and exchanged many images. After all that, we only had one date IRL, and we had a blast. Bizarre. that is bizarre, i dont know what to tell you.
You'reasian Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 She then told me she already has a lover, but is looking for more, and told me that she has all the sex she wants already.. Geez, I've been wondering what my ladyfriend does online.... Many women just withhold information. Liar.
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 wow. i like plenty of fish - why are you shooting down my site? match is ok, but i hate paying for it - that's tantamaunt to prostitution (maybe). i think i like plenty of fish because there are so many low class guys, that i look like a hero. LOL. Well, er, um... Maybe that's it, Payne. All about the competition, right?
vonerik012 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 The guy actually seems honest. Some men just say what a woman WANTS to hear, has sex with her, then never calls her again.
audrey_1 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 LOL again! They will have nice cleavege shots or sexy poses then call a guy a perve if they comment on it... what is up with that? My quote got messed up earlier... This one stumps me, as well. Guy I'm dating ... his ex has boobs the size of Texas. She's got them front and center on her Facebook profile picture. He left her a comment, "Hey, I know those boobs!" to which she responded "What a lovely thing to say." Puhleez. It's called FACEbook, not BOOBbook, or CLEAVAGEbook or ...
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 LOL. Well, er, um... Maybe that's it, Payne. All about the competition, right? i guess you are right.
Balthazar Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Puhleez. It's called FACEbook, not BOOBbook, or CLEAVAGEbook or ... BOOBbook, CLEAVAGEbook.....hmm, I think we are onto something here...
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 My quote got messed up earlier... This one stumps me, as well. Guy I'm dating ... his ex has boobs the size of Texas. She's got them front and center on her Facebook profile picture. He left her a comment, "Hey, I know those boobs!" to which she responded "What a lovely thing to say." Puhleez. It's called FACEbook, not BOOBbook, or CLEAVAGEbook or ... i hate women like that. i know most men are attracted to that kinda stuff but not me. that shows she has at least an Associates from "Slut University" in which case i want nothing to do with her. if the best thing about her is something located on her body.... I WILL RUN!
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 The guy actually seems honest. Some men just say what a woman WANTS to hear, has sex with her, then never calls her again. see that's the thing. if you are too honest, it hurts you. but most times if you just play the game and act a certain way you will get what you want. i just like to be honest no matter what - if they dont like it, thats on them.
Balthazar Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 i hate women like that. i know most men are attracted to that kinda stuff but not me. that shows she has at least an Associates from "Slut University" in which case i want nothing to do with her. if the best thing about her is something located on her body.... I WILL RUN! I WILL RUN(towards her)!
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I WILL RUN(towards her)! LOL. no man... that is a sign - BE AFRAID, BE VERY AFRAID!
audrey_1 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 i hate women like that. i know most men are attracted to that kinda stuff but not me. that shows she has at least an Associates from "Slut University" in which case i want nothing to do with her. if the best thing about her is something located on her body.... I WILL RUN! Well, apparently he did .. and she followed him. He deleted his myspace account when they broke up. I was on Facebook. He created an account, and the DAY AFTERWARD, she sent him a friend request and started with all the cleavage shots. Granted, he shouldn't have accepted the request and he shouldn't have left her a comment like that, but no one could NOT notice her boobs. I'm serious. They're in your face. He's a pushover.
grogster Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 LOL!!!! Yes, I got that feeling from his profile as well. He is a gift. And both sets should not have any expectations, as he has already discussed his "out". Well put, JB. What is it about online dating that magnifies a person's ugly Narcissism? By reducing relationship criteria to text, the online dater often sounds like an egotistical jerk. Men are not as adept as women in tempering their vanity. Well, back to Match.
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Well, apparently he did .. and she followed him. He deleted his myspace account when they broke up. I was on Facebook. He created an account, and the DAY AFTERWARD, she sent him a friend request and started with all the cleavage shots. Granted, he shouldn't have accepted the request and he shouldn't have left her a comment like that, but no one could NOT notice her boobs. I'm serious. They're in your face. He's a pushover. he is just weak. most of us are. we go for the sure thing - quick fix hook up. i am weird and different, you have to have a brain otherwise it is a no go with me.
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Well put, JB. What is it about online dating that magnifies a person's ugly Narcissism? By reducing relationship criteria to text, the online dater often sounds like an egotistical jerk. Men are not as adept as women in tempering their vanity. Well, back to Match. LOL - well back to Match, LOL!
Lizzie60 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Women, get a clue already.. All men like sex. Why do they need to hide it from you? The OP sure had her share of adventures. Or is this when she has decided she wants to have a boyfriend, so she will act like a virgin. "OMG, this man on the internet wants sex, Gross!"
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