goryroad Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I had a really good girlfriend-- gorgeous, independent (good job, own place), smart, nice, caring person, took care of me when i was sick, always there for me when i needed her-- and I never really gave her the attention she deserved. I was so caught up with working all the time and I ignored her a lot. We argued about it before, and she tried to be understanding because I told her it would get better, but i never made any attempts to make it better. I dodged her calls until she finally initiated the breakup a couple of weeks ago because it hurt her that I didn't care about her. The thing is, i DO care about her... I just had other stuff to take care of. I am now starting to realize that she was special and I have found that it is very hard to find a girl like her, who is just nice and doesn't play any games with me. I have been doing NC since the breakup, but I think I may lose her forever. It would kill me to see her with anyone else right now... I should have treated her better because if I had made a little effort, I know she would have waited for me. Did i make a big mistake?
reservoirdog1 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 If the only problem you can identify in your relationship with her was that the two of you would argue because she felt you weren't giving her enough attention, and if you knew then and know now that she was right, and if you'd truly be willing -- and wanting -- to fix that if you two got back together and spend more time with her, and if you truly like everything else about her... ... then yes, you may have made a big mistake. To get her back, you need to tell her, categorically, that you've been miserable the whole time you've been apart, that you haven't been able to even look at anybody else, and that you'll make it up to her. Make it the sweetest, most heartwarming display of caring you've ever imagined. Because the last thing you want is for the fact that the two of you broke up once to be a problem in your relationship in the future.
carrot10 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I broke up with my bf for the same exact thing. I love him so much but he always had "more important" things to do and I didn't want to have to fit into his schedule. We have been NC, too. I would love for him to coming running to me and tell me that he has missed me and does love and appreciate me-as long as he really meant it. You should follow your heart and tell her the things you posted here. The more you stay away, the more she will be convinced she was right about you not really caring about her.
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 i agree because me and my bf have been going through the same problem..he seems more "busy" lately and barely called me or even texted me..i think about breaking up with him but its hard because i do love him and want to be with him.. but he doesnt seem to understand that communication and bonding is important in a relationship. just because you have other things going on in your life doesnt meant you have to put your partner aside..because she is taking part in your life.. i would advice you to talk to her the more you wait the less chances you will have of her takin you back. if you truly love her and care for her make it up and fix things. pay her more atention because thats what all girls want...
kizik Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 No one who loves someone is EVER too busy to give them the attention and affection he or she deserves. I had to learn it the hard way, but if I become secondary to my next girlfriend - see ya!
Recommended Posts