Brionikos Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Hi, I am new here... been lurking for a few months. Background: I am MM who was involved with a MW. My marriage is not the best, not the best by a longshot - however, that does NOT justify what I did or why I did what I did. I ended the affair with the OMW. Boiling down the "break-up", it was so I could concentate on what the Hell I really want in life and so OMW could concentrate on her marriage. Situation: During the "break-up", OMW asked me to talk to her one more time before I went NC. I obliged her, she said she was confused and felt like she was being pulled in different directions - but that I was right that she needed to concentrate on her marriage. She said she wanted me to stay in her life, but that the affair would be over. She wanted to remain friends. I then said I needed time, and went NC. A few days later, she tried to contact me. A week after that, a situation occured that required I contact OMW - I confessed to my wife, and I wanted OMW to know, to be prepared unless my wife decided to contact OMW's husband. I do feel did the right thing in both confessing and informing OMW, that way she could make the decision on whether or not to tell her husband or take the chance that my wife would find a way (FYI, wife will not tell). OMW again asked me not to leave, to stay on as her friend - but again reiterating that the affair was over. The Question: Why, if she adamantly states that the affair is over, is she trying to remain friends? Again, I ended the affair and she agreed to my reasoning for doing so. Personally, I feel I am ill equipped (mentally and emotionally) to remain friends with OMW and I don't really consider it an option at this point, but still... why would she want to? Thanks
lovestruck818 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Some people just don't like having enemies. It is also hard to just go completely NC with someone you care/once cared about. I still speak to all my exes for this reason. It's hard for me to completely throw away and forget about someone whom I at one time or another had a connection with.
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