Eos Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 what is love? i feel like i might be starting to fall in love, but i have never been in love before. thus im not sure what it is... i do know i feel differnt about him then any other guy i have dated... hes amazing and he makes me feel amazing. i dont get sick of being with him and as much as we talk there is always something to talk about even after hours of talking. he's fun to be around even if were not doing anything, i think he feels the same. he's never been in love before and he said that hes never felt this way about anyone else. im just not sure what to call it and im not sure if it has been long enough (a little over a month but were together at least 2 to 3 times a week for most of the day) how do you feel when you are in love? how do you know when your in love? when is it ok to say the "i love you"? i dont want to freak him out but i dont think he would be freaked out... i dont want it to be rejected but at the same time i want to say it, but i dont think i could spit it out first.... pease give me some clues on how you can tell if some one is in love with you and not just infatuated... whats the differnce? thank you!
Geishawhelk Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 No....I think you pretty much got it.... You see, Love's a funny thing.... The Inuits/Eskimos have goodness-knows-how-many different terms for 'snow'.... but we use the single word 'Love' for so many different things.... I love weekends, I love chocolate, I love my mum, I love gardening.... But they're all different, aren't they...? You're right to be cautious, in telling him you love him. Not because it would freak him out, or because I think you're wrong. Neither of the two. But because Love really, actually is special. Think of how you'd feel if he walked away right now. Does that hit you in the stomach? Does your tummy ache when you can't be with him? Has your appetite changed? permanent grin on your face? First thought, him, last thought, him? That would be it......
Author Eos Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 i think u have pin pointed why im cautious, i know this is differnt then those types of "loves" and because i care about him i just want to be sure that its not one of those. im just worried. and over thinking it, but its new to me and im not sure how to aproch it. it does hit me in my stomach even before i see him it flips, or when some one metions his name or even if i just have him on my mind, i have the stupid smile...all the time. he is my first and last thought. my question now... is in my past relationship(i went in to futher detail in a past thread) he cheated on me... and when it was over i shed no tears, and was so thankful i wasnt atatched, although i wasnt atatched it still brought my world to a hault. it turned everything over. my question is how could i handle it if it ended? could i exspect worse if something ended us? (maybe not the cheating thing but more like anything, im not thinking he will cheat on me) will being in love make things harded?
Geishawhelk Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Possibly. The more attached you become, the harder it is to let go. What a lot of people miss, is that everything ends, whether by accident or by design. Nothing is ever forever. But when it's great, we naturally want it to be. Love is selfish. We become attached to it because of the feeling it brings us. Selfless love means putting the other person first, and letting go when it's their time to move on. Loving them enough to let them fly, whatever wind takes them. This works both ways, of course.
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