Byren Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Wow, I've had a turbulent few months. This morning was the first time in about 3 months (since the end) when I actually can't feel any adrenaline coursing through my veins. It feels so good (and weird) to not feel stressed and unhappy. This seems to have come about through breaking NC and deciding to try out friendship to see where it goes. However, she seems to be getting more and more distant and not answering my texts, Which is a shame, I thought things might have been back on track since I've never had as much rapport with her than i've had over the past week or so. My current thinking (and has been for..oooh, about 1h 30mins so far) is "f*ck her, if she has no time for me then the feeling is f*cking mutual"... Posting this seems to make things seem final =) Anyway, I hope that's why I don't feel so stressed and bothered anymore and it's not my adrenal glands packing up...
Meaplus3 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Wow, I've had a turbulent few months. This morning was the first time in about 3 months (since the end) when I actually can't feel any adrenaline coursing through my veins. It feels so good (and weird) to not feel stressed and unhappy. This seems to have come about through breaking NC and deciding to try out friendship to see where it goes. However, she seems to be getting more and more distant and not answering my texts, Which is a shame, I thought things might have been back on track since I've never had as much rapport with her than i've had over the past week or so. My current thinking (and has been for..oooh, about 1h 30mins so far) is "f*ck her, if she has no time for me then the feeling is f*cking mutual"... Posting this seems to make things seem final =) Anyway, I hope that's why I don't feel so stressed and bothered anymore and it's not my adrenal glands packing up... Good for you. I think sometimes we find closure in our own ways. If this worked for you.. thats great. It is a good feeling to be happy again once moving past an R. Best wishes. AP:)
journey1 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I too no longer experience that adrenaline feeling. I can eat and sleep now as well...Thank God That took months and plenty of things from his end to cause me to juststart hating him. But in no way to I feel its closure...beware. Im not trying to upset you but imagine finding out she has a bf?? Then the adrenaline would pump again... So while I think you are getting better and are healing, just dont fool yourself yet. I dont want you to be so confused when you start to feel those feelings again. But I do hope it is better tfor you than it is for me:o
BackonTrack Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Reading this post was interesting, I've been doing NC about 5 months but I've noticed that when I go to sleep. The urge to hate the ex comes up in my subconcious, I awake & fight it and tell myself to not get angry, not get upset, its has been happening allot the last few weeks. I think this is my body's way of trying to kick her out. I don't know what to say except its pretty weird and only started happening the last 2 weeks. I don't know whats up with that
Author Byren Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 I too no longer experience that adrenaline feeling. I can eat and sleep now as well...Thank God That took months and plenty of things from his end to cause me to juststart hating him. But in no way to I feel its closure...beware. Im not trying to upset you but imagine finding out she has a bf?? Then the adrenaline would pump again... So while I think you are getting better and are healing, just dont fool yourself yet. I dont want you to be so confused when you start to feel those feelings again. But I do hope it is better tfor you than it is for me:o I can totally see where you're coming from, in fact after a good few stress-free hours I can feel the adrenaline seeping back into my blood again... perhaps I was just squeezed dry and now my body's ready to feel anxious again, or my resolve from this morning is slipping. I blame facebook... it lets me know too much about people that I'm trying to not care about >_>
tealeafbud Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Hi Bryen, your post was interesting because I'm still on the fence about whether ex couples can remain friends after heartbreak. I guess the true answer is situational, but I tried it and failed miserably, in my opinion. When we were talking as friends, it was pretty much a roller coaster because she had been basically living with someone, and talking to me around his back. When we were talking, it would start off small talk, then ultimately get into the "deeper" waters about our relationship and all that jazz. then I'd find myself getting emotional and getting angry, sad, blah blah blah. So just recently, I'm trying hard to stick to NC (not even counting) and just moving on with my life. Myspace, facebook, and those other social networking sites have a lot to do with it, in my opinion, which is why I haven't logged in for several days now. It seems to be working. Even loggin in, I'm prone to think about checking her profile, and that's not good for me. I have found this out after 3-4 months of checking it almost everyday. Anyhoo, I'm glad that you have found your closure, but just remember to forgive yourself if you relapse or feel any weekness. For me anyways, it's a constant struggle, but getting easier as time goes by.
sultry33 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 personally i think you can be some kind of friends untill they/u meet someone else.. thats when reality sinks in. i have recently broke nc but me and him will always be more than friends just hope we can maintain that as im not ready for full on rs with him or anyone else.. i just miss having him in my life so when time is right for us im taking it slowly this time:love:
Author Byren Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 Seems I'm not 100% over her if I'm going by journey's theory. Last night, while drunk, I stumbled over to her facebook page and noticed some post on her wall along the lines of "sure you can bring jon along"... Jon's her ex that's f*cked her around over and over, the person she swore that she'd never see again... That made me pretty angry, and after my poor monitor got an earful of curses, she was blocked. If I can get all emotional over this then it seems I still need more closure. *sigh*, in that case this post is just me crying wolf.
roghornio Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Seems I'm not 100% over her if I'm going by journey's theory. Last night, while drunk, I stumbled over to her facebook page and noticed some post on her wall along the lines of "sure you can bring jon along"... Jon's her ex that's f*cked her around over and over, the person she swore that she'd never see again... That made me pretty angry, and after my poor monitor got an earful of curses, she was blocked. If I can get all emotional over this then it seems I still need more closure. *sigh*, in that case this post is just me crying wolf. You know I’m not sure you get over it entirely. From my expereriences I think things like this will always annoy you UNTIL you have someone else to replace the ex that your really into.
Author Byren Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 I don't think I'm crying wolf this time... A really good friend of mine has expressed her hidden feelings to me, feelings that I can replicate but had given up on months and months ago. Having a realtionship with her could be tricky (there's lots of reasons why... check out the friends and lovrs fourm if you're interested =P) and my feelings are a little jumbled, but knowing that there are other people out there for me does help a great deal. =)
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