henryccca Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 OK, kind of a delima(sp?), i had a date last night, dinner, drinks, her place just to hang out and there was no intentions of sex on my part and a good night peck on the cheek ended up being a good night kiss. OK that part is not so bad, but the other part is this, she wanted sex but did not pursue becasue of kids being there after being told on the phone last night. Well I'm a guy and wanted sex, but I also wanted to keep it quiet for now bcuz I do have another date for next Monday with a diff woman on a 1st date. How do I keep this in check before I find out what the other woman has to offer? I went from famine to feast this time, never had 2 dates with 2 diff women the same week. its kind of nice. Thanks
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 just be honest. guys always think they have to lie or deceive in order to get what they want but you don't. if a woman likes you enough she will be ok with whatever - sounds harsh but believe me it is true. just tell girl #1 you want to take things slow and right now you like her but you dont want anything serious (which is true). make sure you let her know that if thigs develop they develop, if not that's OK too. see that might work for you. i on the other hand am brutally honest. i tell them i dont want a girlfriend, and if they ask i do tell them that i date other people; it's their choice if they still want to date me after that or not. truth is, most still keep on seeing me, as a matter of fact only 1 stopped and i dont think she ever liked me anyway. being brutally honest makes me look like a dog, or a man whore (even though i never have sex with anyone in the first month - BELIEVE IT!) but it doesnt stop me from dating as many people as i want whenever i want. honesty is the best policy.
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