LoyalGirl Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I was wondering if any of you could give me some insights into the effects of divorce on children. If you divorced, how did your children handle it? Did you see any changes in your children? I have 3 children: A girl: age 3 (soon to be 4), and two boys: ages 2, and 1. I don't want a divorce, but my husband does not seem committed to our marriage. What can I expect if divorce is the outcome?
Nixson Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Both our children handled it well thus far. My eldest daughter is 5 and her brother is turning 3 soon. It was quite difficult for my daughter in the beginning as she is very close to me. I was always the one putting both to sleep so not having me around to do that every day was too much for her but ex-wife and I explained the situation to her. It's almost a year now and my children seem happier and adjusting very well to the changes around them.
Gunny376 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 The most comprehesive study about the consequences and effects of divorc on children was conducted over a twenty year period, and found that divorce affects children into their twenties, thirties, and even forties. The results were published in "Second Chances: Men, Women And Children A Decade After Divorce" by authors Sandra Blakesless and Judith Wallerstein (You might want to give this one a read Perry along with "Crazy Time")
Ronni_W Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Sandra Blakeslee also co-authored (with Julia Lewis), an update to the book Gunny mentioned..."The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study". It's showing 'in stock' at amazon.com
SmartWoman321 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 My children are older, 12,14,16 but all of them have done just fine sinse their dad moved out 8 months ago. Really. Took them to my IC twice and she said they didn't need to continue for now cause they all seemed very well adjusted. She said that the way children of all ages handle it is soley related to how the parents deal with it. My kids dad and I remain on friendly terms, he is very involved with them, sees them multiple times per week, they stay over at his place whenever he wants them.....that said, they were shocked and sad at first- for about 3 days. Other than that, they are absolutley normal. But I am sure that is related to the fact that my ex and I are on friendly terms and we work together very hard on co-parenting.
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