UPDATE:My B/F Uses Cocaine...Mean to me, Tests Me, but wants to come over...

[megapositive]

This is a terrible situation.

[Angel1111]

I logged on to that website and tried getting into the forums, but it says I have to register first, and in order to do so I have to call a number and answer some questions first... What is that for?

 

I don't know what that's for. It wasn't like that several years ago. My guess is that some abusers were able to register by lying about who they were, read what their spouses were saying about them, and then all hell broke loose. The moderators of the site are probably being more protective of the members now.

[You'reasian]

Is this what you were telling me he'd do? I wrote here a week or so ago about my bf who has been using coke on the weekends, loses his temper quickly with me, friends, has road rage, etc. Well I didn't break up with him as advised here. After a few day of NC and then talking about things we started seeing each other again and he has been very nice, happy, etc. We've had a great time. Until last night. He came over, was fine, then jumped down my throat about something super small and went OFF on me, listing things he's pissed at me about, concluding we shouldn't be together, that he should take his stuff and leave. I was shocked, so I went up to him to touch him, comfort him, and he told me to not touch him or he'll call the cops. ??!!??!!

 

After letting him go on a rant for a while I told asked him not to leave, it's late... he calmed down and we talked some more, and he told me he almost got fired that day because he came in pretty late to work when he was supposed to get there early and finish a huge project. He had left for work very late that morning, just kept laying around when I kept telling him he has to get going... he even initiated morning sex even though he was late. He's up for his raise and review, increased stock etc., so it was extra bad he got into an argument with his boss at this time.

 

I can't help but think he was attempting to sabotage his job on purpose... like he is our relationship. WHY???

 

When he left he took most of his things, but left some clothes (on purpose?) and I asked if he could not go to the extreme of breaking up, like he always does, but just be mad and work it out later. He said "I understand, but there's no guarantee." Then left.

 

Now what do I do? He told me when we were getting along how sorry he was, he doesn't want to push me away like he does... but then here he is acting this way. HELP!!!

 

Wow!

 

Sounds like he has a pretty decent job. I'm suprised such places don't do random drug checks?

 

Where I work, we do them and the consequences are real. Same with being on time...

[torranceshipman]

Maybe I'm being totally naive here as noone else has mentioned it, but when you said he only does 2-3 lines....well, I think thats a lot! I mean, doing 2-3 lines of coke sounds really crazy to me. I guess some people do a whole lot more than thatm but it still sounds bad to me....its coke after all and I've heard a lot of talk about how its possible to get addicted to that stuff immediately....I know it must be SO hard to walk away after 2yrs together but it really is the best thing with the way he's behaving.