suzie q Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 right now, i guess i'm in the mad stage. what i want to do is tell my ex everything i'm pissed off about and how pathetic he's been this last month and how stupid he looks. i want to just go off on him. this is so weird to me because i am just not like that. i would never follow through because i know i'd feel terrible tomorrow, but i really just want to go OFF! i know doing that will just let him know that he's gotten to me and i've done a good job of being okay and making it clear to him that i'm fine without him (even when i don't feel fine without him--i just fake it sometimes). i guess i feel all this pent up anger and frustration and i need some sort of outlet. any ideas? also---some encouragement is needed as far as NC. thanks, everyone.
HopeDiesLast Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 have you thought about going to a friend and telling them how you feel? forewarn him or her that you're feeling like you should go off on your ex and tell them everything instead. DONT really do it. u do not want to be the psycho ex. have some pride in yourself and put a value on your dignity. don't ever, ever panic in front of him. and as far as no contact- it sucks, its hard. but think about if he calls you- how great it will feel when he finally caves. im on day 26....if i can do it....i know you can!!
SilverLining Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 It works for me. Write him a letter, but don't send it. You need to get all of it out of your system. Wait a few days, and reread your letter. Add to it, or delete some really mean parts. Then after some time has passed, send him that letter handwritten. You can have your say you know, without looking deranged, and it might help you to move on if you know you can tell him how you really feel about all of this.
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