Lee1010 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 So we were together for two years, living together for a year and a half. In April, he decided he wanted space, so I moved out at the beginning of May, but we stayed together. After about a month, I couldn't take it anymore of the way I was feeling, and I broke it off. He went on a job for a week and I told him I'd leave it up to him to talk if he wanted to. He called me everyday, twice a day. When he got back, he wanted to sit down and talk, so we did and he told me how much he really loved me, how he realized how crappy he'd treated me and taken advantage of me, and that he want me back, but at the same time he didn't want serious and marriage or kids (which are two things he knows I want). So we've been going through this whole weird stage now of everything. We're together, but we're not actually together. He goes out on dates with other girls, which drives me crazy, but doesn't do anything with them. And he always tells me he loves me and everything, but just doesn't want serious. He feels he's too young to settle down (he's twenty-six). I just don't know how to go about getting it back to where we were fine with everything. I don't know what scared him in the first place. He knows I really want it all back to how it was and for it to just be him and I. Now how do I get there?
pickingupthepieces Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Well I am in a similar situation. We broke up, I begged and was the most desperate person! He said no we should both move on (which he doesn't remember saying now!). So I went NC because I thought he hated me.. long story. 2 months of not talking to him or seeing him. I contacted him to get some belongings and HE started initiating contact and now were in the same place as you.. he doesn't want a "relationship" because he is scared.. so we are together but not together. He is not seeing anyone else (so he says) but has female friends that he hangs out with some have bf's some don't. I KNOW one girl is interested in him... He says I love you and in all honesty I believe it. I don't know if there IS anything we can do just decide if we want to wait and risk getting hurt, or letting go of someone COMPLETELY. Basically we are saying "Hey we are just fine with settling for any crumbs you might throw our way.. you go have yourself a GRAND time.. while I wait for you to make up YOUR mind". Personally I have spent too much time with my ex (all initiated by me).. I need some me time I am just scared I think to NOT be with him. I probably haven't helped a ton.. just wanted to let you know your not the only one! Good luck to you.. if you have any suggestions/ideas let me know! **hugs**
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