BassStriker Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I'm just going through a bit of background so you know what has happened between us so far, and have an idea where I am coming from. So almost 2 years ago, I was going out with this girl. Her (then) best friend met my (then) best friend, and they began dating. After a 3-4 month relationship with him, they broke up. I began getting closer to my friends ex, but I never cheated on my then girlfriend. Then there was a fight between the 2 girls over me, and they became enemies. My best friend and I had a falling out too, and stopped talking. In september, I caught my girlfriend cheating on me with her ex, on our 1 year anniversary. As anyone can guess, I ended the relationship there. I saw her enemy at school, and struck up a conversation with her, and we became friends again. One night at a party, a friend of hers asked her out, which she agreed to, but by the end of the night she left with me. Needless to say, their relationship ended fairly quickly. I began dating this girl, and things were perfect between us. I had fallen for a girl that treated me right for once (found out from her that my ex had been cheating on me for the whole year, and I was quite oblivious to it). There were a few trust issues between us (I had lied a few times about skipping a class in school, as my insecurity did not want her disppointed in me), and we broke up for about a month. We talked that whole time, and decided to try things again between us. Later on, we went on a vacation to the mountains (middle of this may), and the trust issue popped up again. Her friend had said that she didnt trust my girlfriend in the other room with her boyfriend, which i relayed to my girlfriend. When she confronted her friend, she lied, and due to the lack of trust we had, she ended it with me. After 2 days, she realized her friend did lie, and we got back again. This time everything was perfect. Up until the point where I was denied going to graduation ceremonies, lost my job, and failed school on the same day... There were so many missed classes from the past year, I was denied graduation (my ex became pregnant, and I skipped school to be with her). This time around, she ended it with me saying I had to get my life sorted out. This was just before the 6-month anniversary (off and on, of course). Now for the current issue. I fell in love with her, and she knew it, but I never said it to her. Currently, I have found a job, sorted out registration for schooling, and sorted out all the problems we had. We recently hung out and went to the fireworks with a friend of mine. When we left my house, she instantly held my hand, and she kissed me a few times. These signals led me to believe she wanted to go out with me again. When we had a conversation about it, she said she still loved her ex (who had recently began talking to her), and didn't think it would work between us. From then on, I hadnt talked to her at all, but a few days ago she called me (2 weeks without talking), and wanted to hang out. She came over, and wanted to go to the park. We went down, she stripped to a bikini, and began tanning. She told me about how she had been living up the single life, hanging out with these different guys she knows, getting drunk a lot. Obviously this bothered me, and I got jealous. I dropped her off at home, and ended up meeting someone on the way home. She began talking to me, and we arranged to meet up tomorrow. I wasn't really ready to meet someone, but I decided that since she is living up the single life, I guess I will too. So I talked to her tonight, and the conversation was going well, until she asked what I was doing tomorrow. I told her I was going down to the beach with this girl, and she instantly got all mad at me, saying she had to go because she was getting very angry. I tried explaining my case, how she has been going out with a bunch of single guys while I have been sitting at home, and this was my first day out, but she stayed angry. I texted her after, saying that I obviously got jealous of her, and i still want to be with her, but she was out with all these guys, so what was i supposed to do? she replied nothing, just leave it be. Now, after reading this long story, I hope someone can help me. She knows what has been going on in my life, that I have been trying my best to fix all the problems we had between us, and she knows I want her back. What are these mixed signals from her supposed to be? And it seems that she wants me back, but what am I supposed to do about it? HELP ME!!!
Walk Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 There were a few trust issues between us (I had lied a few times about skipping a class in school, as my insecurity did not want her disppointed in me), and we broke up for about a month. Later on, we went on a vacation to the mountains (middle of this may), and the trust issue popped up again. ...she ended it with me. I was denied graduation (my ex became pregnant, and I skipped school to be with her). This time around, she ended it with me saying I had to get my life sorted out. This was just before the 6-month anniversary (off and on, of course). A.) You two have broken up 3 times in 6 months. That's not a good sign. It doesn't sound like either of you talk about issues very well. You probably should've kept your gf in the loop about your problems with school and the ex. B.) Maybe that female friend of your gf's was saying something you should've been listening to. Either way, neither of you sound like you're very ... mature. How old are each of you? Who's kid is the ex-ex-gf pregnant with? Yours? or someone elses? Now for the current issue. I fell in love with her, and she knew it, but I never said it to her. IMO, women are not very good at knowing you're in love with them unless you tell them. I don't know how you have shown her you love her, but I'm pretty sure skipping classes to hang out with your pregnant other ex is sending mixed messages. So your most current ex may not know you love her. <current ex gf & you>: When we left my house, she instantly held my hand, and she kissed me a few times. she said she still loved her ex (who had recently began talking to her), and didn't think it would work between us. She told me about how she had been living up the single life, hanging out with these different guys she knows, getting drunk a lot. I dropped her off at home, and ended up meeting someone on the way home. I told her I was going down to the beach with this girl, and she instantly got all mad at me, saying she had to go because she was getting very angry. You need to stop chasing after her. She doesn't treat you very well, and you haven't been very honest or open with her. You're relationship with her has been rocky at best. She's in love with her ex, she enjoys spending time with other men. She isn't interested in a serious relationship with you. She's stringing you along as fall back guy.
Author BassStriker Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 A.) You two have broken up 3 times in 6 months. That's not a good sign. It doesn't sound like either of you talk about issues very well. You probably should've kept your gf in the loop about your problems with school and the ex. B.) Maybe that female friend of your gf's was saying something you should've been listening to. Either way, neither of you sound like you're very ... mature. How old are each of you? Who's kid is the ex-ex-gf pregnant with? Yours? or someone elses? IMO, women are not very good at knowing you're in love with them unless you tell them. I don't know how you have shown her you love her, but I'm pretty sure skipping classes to hang out with your pregnant other ex is sending mixed messages. So your most current ex may not know you love her. You need to stop chasing after her. She doesn't treat you very well, and you haven't been very honest or open with her. You're relationship with her has been rocky at best. She's in love with her ex, she enjoys spending time with other men. She isn't interested in a serious relationship with you. She's stringing you along as fall back guy. I've talked to her about how we need to talk about problems, instead of taking the last resort everytime. She says she doesn't like talking about things, which I find kind of weird. I trust her not to cheat, she's been cheated on before, and claims she would never do that to someone. We're both 18. Dont know who's kid it is, when I found out she cheated on me, I left. There's been no contact for child support or anything, so I'm assuming it isn't mine. The skipping classes to hang out with the ex was over a year ago. The current skipping was due to working long shifts, and doing 12 hours shifts almost every day. She knows I love her, apparently a friend of mine told her I wanted to say it, so she knows. I see what you are saying, but we had fun together, it was a great relationship, and we had so much in common. I talked to her today, she told me not to be jealous because nothing has happened with these guys, and I shouldnt worry......
xpaperxcutx Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Obviously she's playing with your head. She's playing the whole single game to get you to notice how well she's doing without you, while all the time she has no intention of getting back with you.
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