pelicanpreacher Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Wow talk about blaming the victim here. Jeez you're right she should just have married a man of means and ambition cos lord knows those type don't cheat. She probably had no idea what type of things he was capable of when she married him or she wouldn't have married him, even if there were signs or red flags. We want to believe the best of people and that our love isn't misplaced. As ****ty as this is you are lucky you didn't end up getting married and owing your ex anything financially or giving any more of your time. Like you I was afraid to act because that might burn the bridge but what I had a hard time wrapping my head around what that she had burned everything to the ground already. My ex would like a friendship with me and she was in my life for 7 years before her infidelity. But honestly I have no room for her any longer.. where on earth would she fit??? Not with my friends, not with my family who don't want anything to do with her any longer and certainly not with my current relationship. Trust me when you finally move on you won't want her friendship and your new woman won't want her around either, not because she is a threat but because she is toxic and treated you like crap. I'm friends with a few of my ex's and my current gf is good with that because they are deserving people. I've even hung out with with my gf and her ex primarily because they are business partners and try to keep the relationship friendly (they were together for 15 years) Good post! You've poignantly presented the flip side of my coin!
pelicanpreacher Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 By all means, inform away! Might as well make everyone as miserable as you are..... I don't think its about making anyone miserable per se but instead, making the AF partners accountable to the damage they cause and protecting the interests of the innocent. As long as the AF partners are happy with each other poor as church mice by receiving no financial benefit from their SOs then c'est la vie!
twice_shy Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Do nothing. You own nothing to the OM wife. She made her choice to marry a loser...she fully knew what kind of person she was marrying when she married who made significantly less than her (aka bad boy partier). Now let her live with her decision. Let her enjoy her party and fun times. You just move on and wipe your hands off of all these people. Gee, what sympathy you have for someone betrayed. Its despicable that you insinuate that she deserved what she got because she knew what kind of person she was marrying. How the hell do you know? And since when does the amount of money someone makes equate to someone deserving to be betrayed?
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