MusicChick24 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 My boyfriend of 3 years have been broken up for 2 hrs so far. We've been off and on and we've broken up and I've dated other guys and he's came crawling back saying how much he loves me and never wants to lose me again. For the past month he's been saying that he doubted whether or not he loved me and whether or not we were really meant to be together. I was seeing a psychologist and he refused to go with me. We've been up and down up and down, and finally tonight we snapped. Last night I had a panic attack and was rushed to the ER after him and I got in a huge fight. Today, I thought we were pretty good. He came over today and then we saw each other at Church, talked like normal and then once we got home he started the "I don't know if I love you" again. His reason for finally breaking it off was over a comment I made about his brother and his brothers fiance's marriage maybe not working out. Yeah the comment was out of line, but I honestly didn't know it would offend him so, he cracks on his brother all the time. But apparently that's okay and I didn't know that. I think it was just a easy excuse to break up with me. I don't know what to do. I'm in love with him, and I always have been. I doubt whether or not we could be friends without a relationship, which also hurts because he's my best friend. I know he's been stressed alot lately and I think that is some of it and he may change his mind. What do I do? <3
Sassi75 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Hi MusicChick24 - I'm so sorry your going through this. I know what a hard time this must be for you. But right now, I would advise you to let him go. He needs to have time to figure out what he really wants, and how he really feels about you and your relationship. That means, no calling, no texting, no emailing--NO CONTACT! And believe me, I know first hand how difficult it is to not contact someone you love so much. You want to try to get them to see and understand they are making such a huge mistake by leaving. But that's how it's viewed through your eyes, it's only how YOU feel. HE is the one that needs to feel that way. As I'm trying to understand myself, sometimes we just have to let the ones we love go and if it's meant to be, than it will be. Don't beg for him. He knows you love him, and in not contacting him please don't think that he will forget you. In 3 years you have made a huge impact on his life, and he'll never forget that.
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