Vicious_Delicious Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Hi all, Just to fill you all in on my situation... I am 24 years old and I've never been in a relationship before. This is mainly due to the fact that I've been severely overweight and self conscious for a large majority of my life. However, in the past few years, I've really buckled down and lost a ton of weight, and as a result, my confidence has sky rocketed. This confidence has led me to meeting a girl that I've dated for two months. The dating process was a bit rocky, due in part to my inexperience with dating. Early on in the dating process, I let her know that I've never been in a relationship before. This apparently didn't bother her too much, because after another month and a half of dating, she is now my girlfriend. She did say that the fact that I've never been in a relationship was a concern of hers, but she said that she would be very patient with me, and I with her. All she asks is that I respect her, am loyal (she's been cheated on a few times), and I communicate with her. Easy enough for me. So, now that she's my girlfriend, I just want to make sure I don't do anything to mess this up. I have a ton of friends that I've been having to consult due to me over reacting to stupid things during the dating process, but now that we're committed, I don't tend to over react any much any more (however, it is still early...). I'm just asking for any advice that everyone here is willing to share with me. Anything and everything is appreciated. If you'd like to know more about my situation, let me know.
xjohnsgirlx Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 1. trust < cant have a relationship with out it. If she wants to have a girls night out, you need to agree with it no questions. Because you should trust her. If you worry about it and make it a big deal she will straight away turn it onto you as you dont trust her. 2. Take things slow< never rush anything, this might be a relationship forever, it could also just be a stepping stone (no offence). But you never know. 3. Keep things alive< dont get into a routine that you like to stick to. It gets boring and youll be put on auto pilot and after awhile shell want something new. Plan surprises, go out for lunch, buy her flowers or a lil present. Just try not to do the same thing over n over. 4. Be honest< no body likes a liar. 5. one last thing it may not apply though. If you ever get into a disagreement. Dont argue about it. This is my opinion other people may not agree. But like if you both dont agree on something, Talk about it calmly even agree to disagree but definately dont yell about it. Just becomes a big screaming match, not healthy. =)
Crazy.S Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Be honest about the important things. The smaller stuff should be avoided. Like her appearance per-say or even smaller like her choice of nail polish. Oh yeah do not overuse the "L" word. It's nice, but you wouldn't want to lose its meaning. Say it when you mean it. Give her space when she asks for it. Don't try to always be in each others company. Maintain a healthy relationship with your friends and family. Don't plan your whole future around her. You can include her, but don't make her the centerpiece. Remember the small things and don't forget who she fell in love with.
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